HOW TO LOSE A HUSBAND:
Set high expectations on him
Point out his faults often
Become quarrelsome and contentious
Desire to control and manipulate him
Deprive him sexually
Refuse to fix food for him
Demand he help with housework
Don't keep home clean and tidy
Let yourself go physically
Complain about him to others
Expect him to meet your emotional needs
Stop laughing at his jokes
Never smile at him
Have no desire to please him
Insist on being right and having the last word
You've been billing her and she never knew.
That's not her messing up.
That's you failing to be clear and charging her for it.
Two Hebrew words that will help you deal with the resentment loop.
Galatians 4:4 looks like a transition verse.
“But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth His Son.”
If you read it fast, it sounds like a timestamp. But if read slowly, it is the most staggering sentence in the Bible.
‘Fullness of time’. Paul isn't saying God picked a convenient moment. He is saying God declared a moment complete. “The preparation is finished and everything I have been building across centuries is exactly where I need it to be”. God looked at human history and said: now.
Which forces the question. Why then? Why not a thousand years earlier, when Moses was fresh? Why not a thousand years later? What was so perfect about the first century?
I started looking into it and I have not recovered.
God needed a people with the theology. He spent 2000 years forming Israel; the covenant, the sacrificial system, the prophets, Isaiah 53 written seven centuries before Calvary, the framework of a coming Messiah who would bear the sin of the world. The Jews were shaped by wilderness, exile, and divine discipline, until the theological infrastructure for substitutionary atonement was fully in place.
But theology alone could not travel. God needed a language. Not a tribal dialect, but a universal tongue. So five hundred years before the Gospel, He let the Greek philosophers begin.
Heraclitus sat in Ephesus and concluded the universe was governed by an invisible rational principle. He called it the Logos.
The Stoics built on it. Philo of Alexandria stood at the intersection of Greek thought and Hebrew scripture and said the Logos was the mind of God in creation. For five hundred years, philosophy built a conceptual category it could not fill.
Then God sent a conqueror with no interest in theology. Alexander the Great wanted glory and empire. God let him want it. In satisfying his ego across three continents, Alexander Hellenized the ancient world and forged Koine Greek, the common tongue of the docks, markets, soldiers, and slaves. A language stripped of complexity, simple enough for anyone, universal enough for everyone.
The Hebrew scriptures were translated into it. The Septuagint was born. God used a pagan conqueror’s ambition to translate His own Word.
Then Rome came and paved the road. The Pax Romana. Piracy cleared. Stone highways stretching from Spain to Syria. A framework for movement the ancient world had never seen.
None of them knew they were collaborating.
Heraclitus thought he was doing philosophy. Alexander thought he was building a monument to himself. Rome thought it was building an empire for Rome. Not one of them understood they were stagehands. God was with Heraclitus in his pondering, with Alexander in his conquest, with Roman engineers laying stone, quietly requisitioning their work for a purpose none of them could see.
And then, when the covenant people were in place, the language primed, the roads built, and the category ready, when everything He had been quietly assembling was finally set, God stepped into the room they had unknowingly prepared.
John picked up his pen and wrote: “In the beginning was the Logos.”
Every Greek philosopher in the Mediterranean felt the ground shift. “And the Logos became flesh.” The category they spent five centuries constructing was not a principle. It was a Person.
The ‘fullness of time is not a timestamp’. It is God’s signature on a completed work. And the humbling thing is that this work was not built by saints. It was built by conquerors, philosophers, and emperors who thought they were writing their own story. God let them think that. And used every word. If this is not amazing then I don’t know what is.
Here’s a simple way to get unstuck when you’re worried, overwhelmed, or overthinking a decision.
Ask yourself one question:
What kind of thing am I dealing with?
Most issues fall into one of three categories.
1. Settled Things
These are things that have already been decided.
Your birth family.
Your nation of origin.
Your height.
Your past decisions.
Your upbringing.
Things you did.
Things done to you.
Some of these things were decided by your own past actions. Others were decided by God’s providence. As Paul says in Acts 17:26, God determined our appointed times and the boundaries of our dwelling place.
You can’t go back and change these things.
So the question is not, “How do I undo this?”
The question is, “Does this have any bearing on what I should do now?”
If not, leave it alone. Don’t spend your life fighting settled things.
2. Action Things
These are things you have some real control over.
Your diet.
Your exercise.
Your spending.
Your work ethic.
Your attitude.
Your friendships.
Your theological knowledge.
Your presentability.
Your habits.
Your skills.
These are your controllables.
You may not control everything about your health, finances, relationships, or future. But you usually control more than you think.
So if the issue falls here, don’t overthink it.
Take direct action.
Start small if you have to. Make the call. Go on the walk. Open the Bible. Apologize. Apply for the job. Pay the bill. Clean the room. Do the next faithful thing.
3. Prayer Things
These are things outside your direct control, but not outside God’s control.
The economy.
The weather.
The housing market.
The availability of a suitable spouse.
Other people’s choices.
Timing.
Open doors.
Closed doors.
You can’t force these things. You can’t grab the steering wheel of providence.
But God can act.
So you take indirect action through prayer. You ask. You wait. You prepare. You remain faithful. You do what you can do and trust God with what only He can do.
So ask yourself:
Is this settled?
Then accept it and learn from it.
Is this actionable?
Then do something.
Is this outside my control?
Then pray and trust God.
This is a simple framework, and yes, it’s a little reductionistic. But that’s the point. The goal is not to explain every complexity of life. The goal is to get you unstuck.
Most people waste too much energy trying to change the past, control what belongs to God, or pray about things they simply need to obey.
So categorize the issue.
Then act accordingly.
Accept what is settled.
Act on what is yours.
Pray over what belongs to God.
The long road is not punishment, its a gift. and if you cant see that yet, its because you are still the same whiny creature who prayed for God to teleport you out of egypt. God said no, i am going to make you walk. and you cry about it like its some injustice. it is not. the desert is not your enemy, you are your enemy. you want to arrive at canaan as the same person who ate the bread of slavery. you want to be free and also not change. pick one. that is not how this works. God is not going to drag your bitter half formed soul into a promised land, it would spoil the milk and spoil the honey, and you would wreck it within a year because you are not ready. so he walks you until the readiness is not something you aspire to, it is something you are forged into. the sand in your teeth is teaching you. the thirst is teaching you. the rations are building someone who can receive a promise without choking on it. stop asking od to rescue you from the only process that will actually save you. blessed are those who walk it without cursing the sand, for every grain grinds a slave into a son
Going on 3 decades and every day we count our blessings.
We struggled in the beginning together making ends meet under 30k a year and with a young child.
But struggle shows strength and what you’re made of. That wasn’t the end of struggle…
Deaths in the family
Illnesses
And loss
But real love stands by you through the good and bad…
Make intentional choices.
Then fight for that person.
Til the end. 🙏🏻
look for the positives in each other, and don’t let outside opinions dictate how we live.
🚿 A Husband's Love Cleanses—It Doesn't Coddle Prudishness and Pride.
Husbands: This is YOUR calling. Wash your wife with the Word to present her spotless, holy, and pleasing to both yourself and to God (Eph 5:25-27 KJV).
That mud is sin: prudishness, pride, false piety/modesty, denial, delay—fear-based walls blocking vulnerability and your visual/physical delight in her. Your masculine desires are not crude, dirty, or perverted—they are pure and undefiled (Heb 13:4 KJV).
Make no mistake, when a wife is ravishing, sexually intoxicating, her husband - this pleases God. But when a wife shames her husband for his masculine sexual desires, this displeases God.
God calls her to ravish you as her husband: "be thou ravished always with her love" (Prov 5:19 KJV). Scripture says you are to be intoxicated by your wife—not the reverse. Her prudishness is the very opposite of how God intends her to act toward you.
The Priority is clear: "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (1 Cor 11:9 KJV)—not him for her. Husbands may show kindness by approaching her relational side at times (as due benevolence), but there are no prerequisites for sex in Christian marriage.
Husbands have full freedom to desire/approach anytime in your God-designed visual/physical way. Wives have equal freedom to initiate. No deprivation except mutual consent for prayer/fasting (1 Cor 7:3-5 KJV).
Wives: Step out of comfort zones. Respect his visual/physical perspective. Ravish him intentionally—don't insist he meets your emotional needs first before sex.
Husbands: Wash lovingly, persistently—like Christ. Present her glorious.
Wives: Drop pride/fear. Be the ravishing wife who intoxicates him.
Husbands: Tell her clearly what intoxicates you - don't be shy or ashamed of your manly desires.
Wives: Ask honestly, “What can I do to be more ravishing to you? What delights/intoxicates you?” No excuses or shutdowns—obey God's design.
See link in bio for my podcast "A Biblical Guide to Ravishing Your Husband" on https://t.co/ppF5JRvKFw—teaching from Song of Solomon how to be a ravishing wife.
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4 Rules That Actually Save a Marriage:
1. Stay fit.
Lift weights.
The discipline bleeds into everything
mindset, confidence, desire.
2. Don’t be lazy.
Make bank.
Money buys time, freedom, and space to enjoy each other.
3. Prioritize the marriage.
Not the kids.
Not the drinking, smoking, scrolling, or hobbies you use to escape from reality.
Your spouse comes first
everything else works better when you do.
4. Have lots of sex.
Don’t stop.
Physical intimacy is glue.
When it’s gone, the marriage is too
you just haven’t signed the papers yet.
What else would you add?
@Cernovich Totally feel that. The more I listened to him the more I began to wonder, based on the extensive reading I had done over the years. And then his X account. Yeah I’m out.
@rob_avis_ramble It’s all about the foundational issues. Gotta get those on the table through the hard conversations and let both decide. One thing I’ve learned, these cant just sit on the shelf and never be resolved. Far worse than just going separate ways.
Imagine for a moment you were born in the year 1900. At age 14, World War I breaks out, ending at age 18, leaving 22 million dead.
Shortly after, a global pandemic appears, the Spanish flu, which kills 50 million people. And you survive, at 20 years.
At 29, you survive the global economic crisis that starts with the fall of the New York Stock Exchange, causing inflation, unemployment and hunger.
At age 33, Nazism comes to power.
When you're 39, World War II starts and ends when you're 45, with 60 million dead.
At 52 years old, the Korean War begins.
When you're 64 years old, the Vietnam War starts and ends when you're 75.
Then a person born in the 90s thinks that their grandparents have no idea how difficult life is because the restaurant server used the wrong pronouns.
I’ve struggled with this myself
because I’m in a loving marriage.
There were times I felt men were being too harsh on women,
because I genuinely try every day to please and love my husband and know there are other women who feel the same
But after being attacked here on Twitter
simply for encouraging women to honor their husbands
I see things clearly now.
These women created entire forums just to bash me.
They obsess, cyberstalk, gang up, and bully
all because I held up a mirror.
They don’t want truth. They want delusion.
And anyone who challenges that gets villainized.
That’s not disagreement. That’s mental illness.
Western women are so far gone, I no longer blame any man who chooses to walk away from marriage entirely.
The father plants trees he will never climb and the son climbs trees he did not plant, and somewhere in this sacred exchange lies the mystery of time itself - how a man becomes eternal not by living forever but by teaching another man to die well, and when the son finally understands that his father's silence was not absence but presence compressed into granite, that his father's hands were not empty but full of invisible seeds, then he becomes the father, then he plants the trees, then he learns the terrible beautiful weight of loving someone into tomorrow
We've lost the Republican party in Texas. We believe in small government, secure borders, low taxes, allowing Texans to live their lives...
We got:
- Insane Property Tax
- Big spending bill
- Crushing businesses
- Personal freedom lost
We need REAL Republicans
You can judge a man by the woman beside him.
If she’s:
Stunning
Quiet
and follows his lead
Everyone asks, Who is this man?
If she’s:
Loud
Entitled
Disrespectful,
and ignores him
respect for him, in that room, disappears too.
He’s excluded, overlooked, and diminished by the public.
Protecting your man is just as important as him protecting you.
It’s is a shared responsibility.
A woman’s true strength is building her man up, especially when he’s not present.
Her actions in his absence reveal the relationship’s integrity.
She must ask herself:
Does this choice honor him or harm him?
Her reflection tells the story of the man she stands with.
Never take this lightly.