Don't be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Love yourself and be proud of EVERYTHING that you do. Even mistakes mean you're trying..
@oil_shaeikh@akinalabi So bad officiating should result to fans attack on players and officials?
How many time do we see bad officiating in PL, and how many time do you see fans invading the pitch to attack players?
Dear Good People,
Let’s talk about something important; respecting access and privileges.
Sometimes, we don’t realize that having someone’s phone number or WhatsApp contact is a privilege, not an entitlement. It means someone has trusted you enough to give you direct access to them, and that should be handled with care.
For me personally, I try to be mindful of how I reach out. If I call and it rings out, I don’t keep calling back-to-back. I send a short message (SMS) explaining why I called. If there’s no response, I assume the person is unavailable or not in the space to talk and I respectfully let it go, even if I truly needed to speak with them.
Believe it or not, I have the contacts of some very important people, and wallahi, I often hesitate before even sending a message, let alone calling “just to greet.” Why? Because I understand that people are busy, under pressure, and may not be in the right frame of mind to take calls that aren’t time-sensitive or purposeful.
Also, we should not feel entitled to always get through to our leaders or mentors, or expect those with access to them to always “help us talk to them” about one request or the other. That’s not how respectful relationships are built.
Some of us are fortunate to have solid relationships with people in leadership not based on begging or pressure, but on mutual respect. If they choose to give us something, alhamdulillah, we accept with gratitude. But we don’t make it a habit to ask or demand.
Let’s be intentional about how we use the access we’ve been given. Let’s not abuse it. Let’s protect it with respect and maturity.
Abubakar Hidima. PhD.