Having Lupus is falling sick on a random day and never getting better. Then learning to accept that for the rest of your life, you’d have to take medications to suppress your own immune system so it doesn’t go around your body attacking your healthy organs, cells and tissues just because your own body has considered you a potential enemy.
You can do everything right, make all the lifestyle changes, never skip your meds, and still end up with organ damage. There’s really no predicting what your rebellious immune system can do to you. 😢
Two of my people are now battling End Stage Kidney Disease and fighting to stay alive because their own immune have chosen their kidneys as the enemy. Lupus Nephritis ( lupus that affects the kidneys) is the leading cause of death amongst lupus warriors. 😢
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236 people have downloaded Before You Say That so far 🥹💛
I am so grateful. I wrote this book for people who genuinely want to communicate better around disability, but were never really taught how. I want to see more people pause mid-sentence, rethink certain words, question things they’ve said their whole lives, disagree, learn, unlearn, and return with new perspectives. That’s the point of this book.
Disability inclusion is not only about ramps, policies, or representation. It’s also about the everyday language that shapes how disabled people are seen, treated, included, excluded, respected, or mocked in society. And we still have a long way to go in this part of the world.
Seeing 236 people choose to learn gives me hope that these conversations are growing beyond disability communities alone. My goal is still to reach 1,000 downloads before the end of May. So if you’ve downloaded the book already, thank you so much. Please keep sharing it with your friends, colleagues, workplaces, communities, schools, and group chats. And if you haven’t downloaded it yet, this is your sign. 👀
It’s free: https://t.co/QLxkWaCECP
It’s sad that words like “retard” and “retarded” have become so normalised online that people casually use them as shorthand for all forms of insults without stopping to think about where the words come from or who they have historically been used against.
“Retard” is not harmless internet slang. It is a slur with a long history of degrading, institutionalising, isolating, and mocking people with intellectual disabilities. This is why I will continue to champion disability-inclusive language conversations matter because most of us think disability discrimination only exists in inaccessible buildings or broken systems, meanwhile, harmful language is happening casually in tweets, jokes, insults, memes, captions, and comment sections every day. You can criticise someone without using disability as the insult. That shift in thinking needs to happen, this is 2026.
I broke this word down in my free book, Before You Say That, alongside 150+ everyday disability-related words and phrases. In simple language, I shared why some can be harmful, and better ways to communicate without reinforcing stigma.
Download for FREE here if you’d like to learn more:
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