Olufunmilayo💖

Christ follower.
Peace loving.
Unique.
God pikin.
Fun Loving.
Church girl.
Cool, Calm and Collected.

[Deborah Ocheido @d_ocheido]

Yes I had a relationship that ended 1 week to our engagement.

Ever since I shared this, I’ve gotten so many DMs about heartbreak and pain

One said “sis Debby, I feel like I’ve been set on fire. The pain is unbearable. Please how did you do it”?

Honestly I haven’t responded to anyone on this

Because even though it’s something I’ve been through, emotional pain is so UNIQUE.

It affects us so differently

And I’m no expert on the subject. But I’ve taken time to think about it deeply and consider my own journey to healing in retrospect

So here’s what I’ll say

🤍CRY.

Many times people will say
“Oh don’t waste any second crying.”

“It’s their loss. They’ve missed out on you.”

“You don’t know what God saved you from”

All these is true but I highly recommend you mourn. What this does is that it allows you think and process the sad thing that happened to you.

I’ll describe it like draining pus out of wound.

Don’t bottle it up

You gave your love and time and energy. Now it’s over. It’s sad. Mourn it

Cry very well. Then clean your eyes. And cry some more.

🤍Prepare for the roller coaster

You would think you have healed. And all its well

And boom. Something reminds you and you feel the ache again.

It’s ok. Healing is not so linear. Brace yourself

One moment you’re laughing and the next minute, you’re tearing up. It’s ok

🤍It’s nothing you did

Except you have a character flaw and it was pointed out, if your relationship ended because the timing wasn’t right or the person just liked someone else more,

Please don’t fall into the pit of self hatred

It’s not because you’re short and chubby and you have acne.

There’s nothing about yourself that is wrong.

You just weren’t picked. And that’s ok too.

You’re someone else’s spec.

🤍Knowing why won’t change much

There’s this other pit where you start obsessing about the “why’s”

“Why did they not chose me”?
“What can I do different”?

Why this why that

Then you want to call the person. You want to understand why

Even if they can articulate the reasons, what would that do for you?

It has ended. Accept it. Move o

Stop focusing on what has ended.

If you’re a believer in Christ, start asking God “Father, what’s next for me”?

🤍Talk to the Holyspirit

Beliver in Christ? Come close again.

Talk to Him. I mean literally.

Open your mouth and say “Holyspirit, my heart is hurting. Please help me heal.

I promise you, He will do it.

You’ll wake up every day and discover your heart hurts less and less.

I promise you.

🤍Try again

Men and not scum. Women and not witches

Don’t let the devil tell you lies.

Don’t start doubting the leading of God either.

God still has a plan for you

There’s someone out there who will think you’re the best human being in the world

Who would provide a sade space for you to be loved and to grow and thrive

It will happen for you

I know because it happened for you

And I know God is not partial.

I hope this helps.

Your sister in Christ 😇

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

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[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

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[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@dbamiloye Bro Folarin is the real MVP.
He was giving content and real new believers vibes.
I was just laughing like a clown😂😂😂

[Doyinsola TOYE @doyinsola_toye]

Dear Holy Spirit,

I think I'm beginning to like this person, I think about him/her often.

Please help my heart, help me not to be blinded by my feelings. Your will is what I want.

You can have this kind of conversation with the Holy Spirit too.

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@DrOlufunmilayo Welcome back

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

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[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@ebubensukka_esq Cute

[Deborah Ocheido @d_ocheido]

I saw something in scriptures today that that made me understand why God loved David so much

Remember when Absalom, David's son was trying to take the kingdom?
And plotted against his father and chased him out ?
Someone came and told David that Ahithophel was with Absalom

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@KennedyWandera_ @PeterObi @UBACares @UBAGroup Kindly revert my money!
I have sent a DM but no response yet

[Eyimisan @Eyimisan2]

A government organization that seams to work is @NERCNG 👍🏾. They don’t joke with your complaint. 👏🏼 to the team

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@kayteeRobby @_screenshoter white

[victoria orenze @victoriaorenze]

A warning to those who are Christians, who are meant to be and think from Zion, but are still practising tribal divide, judgment is knocking! Repent!! Jesus Christ does not stand and will not stand for such!

Nigerians be at rest, God is involved in this and when He is done-

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@channelstv Lies! Lies!! Lies!!!

[Doyinsola TOYE @doyinsola_toye]

Don't use another person's success or achievement to judge God's faithfulness in your life.

[Godman Akinlabi @PGeeman]

This week. I pray that God's goodness will run after you. You will encounter new opportunities for financial increase. You are moving from just enough to more than enough in Jesus' name.

Amen!

[Peter Obi @PeterObi]

As the reconfiguration of BVAS has become our watchword today, I humbly appeal to Nigerians that it's time to Reconfigure our own BVAS "BASIC VALUES ACCEPTABLE TO SOCIETY" Have a nice Sunday and may God Almighty bless Nigeria. -PO

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

@UBAGroup @GbengaOsan Please return my money! I have sent a DM

[Olufunmilayo💖 @oluphynmy]

No lies here!
You cannot give what you dont have!!!

[oseni rufai @ruffydfire]

Men without honor cannot build an honorable country

[Mr Macaroni @mrmacaroni]

Youths in This same Lagos State were killed for protesting peacefully. So many brutalized and dehumanized!!! So many are still in detention!!! So many of us still receiving threats daily…
So you expect Youths to forget these atrocities in the name of Tribe???
Evil People!!!