As a man, you must consciously keep seeing the woman you fell in love with in the first place; donโt let routine blind you to what originally attracted you to her. Marriage is not the end of dating. Itโs the reason to date her more, so keep courting her, take her out at least twice a month, create space to reconnect, laugh, and talk beyond responsibilities. Understand that marriage is a season of transition: two strangers with different upbringings, habits, and emotional languages learning to live as one, and friction is part of that adjustment. On top of that, she will change, biologically, emotionally, and mentally, through childbirth, hormonal shifts, and the weight of becoming a wife and possibly a mother after living her whole life as a single woman; these changes are logical, natural responses to new responsibilities, physical demands, and identity shifts, not a loss of love. When a man understands why these changes happen, he replaces resentment with empathy and patience, and when he keeps looking at her through the same loving lens he had before marriage, he remembers that growth doesnโt erase love. It tests whether youโre willing to keep choosing it.
@amerix Who did God choose to be the mother of His Son, even though He forgave prostitutes?
Mary.
A virgin.
Forgiveness shows God's mercy.
Selection reveals His standard.
Grace redeems the broken but purpose is entrusted to the consecrated.
EL-ROI ORPHANAGE HOME by my dear wife Pastor Eno. One thing my wife and I share is the LOVE FOR CHILDREN . We are glad that this Project is ready . God bless you Nwunyem . Dearest ! Love you loads !!! Heaven is Proud of you !!!
I watched a Kevin Hart interview recently where He talked about a time when he was struggling; his rent was due, eviction was close, and he was desperate for a solution.
He went to his mum for help, and instead of giving him money, she kept asking one question - "are you reading your Bible?"
Each time, he said yes. He was lying.
What he didnโt know was that his mum had already solved the problem. She had signed cheques and hidden them inside his Bible. The help he was crying for was sitting right in the place he claimed to be visiting, but wasnโt. The day he finally opened the Bible ti study, he found cheques, his answer waiting for him.
That story reminded me of a similar experience I had with my Dad when I was in JSS3, Junior WAEC period. Those days when exam students were always in school earlier than everyone else, staying back longer, tired, hungry, stressed. I remember my dad giving me my normal pocket money, and then still put extra cash inside my hard-copy new Bible without saying telling me about it.
I didnโt know until later.
I remember that I ran out of the normal pocket money and was struggling to keep up. On a Sunday morning we were going to the Chapel, and I carried my Bible along. It was in the middle of service I saw the money - it was about N5k or so. It felt like a miracle. How did I not see this. I quizzed and thanked God so much.
After the exams, when we were home, I asked my Dad why he did that, and he explained that sometimes we get carried away, even as children, and forget to spend time in the Word. Putting the money there was his own way of nudging me back. His own way of saying, "when you need something, go to God first."
Iโve never forgotten that.
Now that I think about it, both stories are saying a similar thing. Our parents were doing more than helping us financially. They were laying foundations, and teaching us that when life starts to press, when things are tight, when youโre confused or stuck, your first response should be God - go to the Word.
It's not because every time you open the Bible money will fall out, but because answers live there, you'll find direction there, and wisdom lives there too. Sometimes what you need may not be provision, it may be clarity or peace, or just strength to keep going.
And honestly, many times, what weโre praying about is already waiting for us in the Word of God we say we believe, but donโt always remember to go back to.
I think one of the most beautiful legacies we can leave for our children, or live out, is a life that keeps returning to God. Not only when things scatter, but all the time. Because the more we go back to Him, the more we realise that Heโs been there all along, with answers we didnโt know we needed.
If you're currently being pressed by life, go to the word of God. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you the actual verse that holds the answer that you need. You'd be surprised how much solutions you'd find in the word of God.
โ Chichi
I said goodbye to my ex partner, and one of his last messages was:
โYouโre a wonderful person, but be careful with the men you meet from now onโeveryone lies, and thatโs an absolute truth.
Iโm telling you as someone who loves you and lied to you.โ
Marriage Tip:
Every time you talk to your wife your brain should remember that this conversation is being recorded for training and quality purposes.
Anything you say can and will be used for reference in the future.
A good time to make this spread and trend againโฆโฆ.
Letโs go !
Jesus just has to be who He says He is. No one gives this joy that He gives.
We celebrate our king, JESUS !
This is the least thing that can even provoke a Christian. The authenticity of Jesus Christ is not tied to any piece of paper. Iโm not sure itโs the same for the other guy.
My wife stopped fighting with me in 2018.
I thought we'd finally figured it out.
No more arguments about the dishes. No more sighing when I forgot something. No more asking me to help with things I should've noticed myself.
Peace.
That's what I called it.
For two years I lived in that silence thinking we'd reached some kind of marital maturity.
Then one nightโ11 PM, night before ThanksgivingโI found her crying in the kitchen.
Making pie crust from scratch because my mother had made a comment the year before about store-bought being "fine, I guess."
I asked what was wrong.
She looked at me like I was a stranger.
"Nothing."
That's when I realized:
She hadn't stopped fighting because things were better.
She stopped fighting because she stopped believing I would ever change.
The silence wasn't peace.
It was resignation.
She'd built her entire life around my absenceโฆwhile I was still in the house. Eating the food she cooked. Sleeping in the bed she made. Parenting the kids she was raising.
And I called it partnership because I brought home a paycheck.
Most men don't have a marriage problem.
They have an absence problem.
Their wives stopped asking because asking hurt too much.
So they carry it alone. The meals. The schedules. The mental load. The holidays.
And we sit on the couch checking our phones thinking "at least we're not fighting anymore."
Brother, fighting would be better.
Anger means she still believes you could change.
Silence means she made peace with the fact that you won't.
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving.
Your wife is going to wake up before you. Start cooking while you sleep. Manage the chaos while you watch the parade. Clean up while you digest.
Unless you don't let her.
I wrote the protocol for coming home to a marriage you've been absent from.
The 5 stages of wifely resignation.
Why "I'll do better" doesn't work anymore.
The 30-day silent rebuilding system.
The conversation she needs to hear.
It's called "When She Stopped Asking."
Link below if you want it.
But whether you buy it or notโwake up first tomorrow.