Patriarchy is human dysregulation in action. This is a trauma response that comes from being frightened and not soothed/cared for nurtured. Misogyny is the cause of the dysregulation. Misogyny is the hatred and phobia of homo sapient nurturing. It’s so bizarre for our species
Therapist and social worker Christine Forner dares to speak the unspoken but obvious truth that misogyny and patriarchy are not the natural way of things but are born out of unhealed pervasive trauma. #trauma#misogyny#patriarchy#violence#abuse
Young men’s resistance to gender norms: Substantial numbers of young men live in ways that sit outside or challenge stereotypical gender norms, whether deliberately or not. Qualitative research among young men documents patterns of gender non-conformity and resistance.
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At the core, misogyny (the phobia of nurturing) is fuelled by child abuse and neglect. Currently, all civilizations are drowning in human suffering that is 100% fixable, and preventable. Patriarchy (idolized and sanctioned psychopathy) is the continuation of suffering
I’ve grown to hate the slogans used around education.
‘Be exceptional’ says our local college.
‘Every child achieving and thriving’ says the government website.
‘Aim for the top’ says a local youth organisation.
Succeed, try harder, succeed, our children are told relentlessly. Be a winner. We pit them against each other and tell them the prizes are all there for the taking - just as long as they pass their exams and do the best they can. Achieve and succeed.
You can all do it!
It’s not true. They can’t all succeed, no matter how hard they work. The system isn’t designed that way. That’s because one child’s success means another child’s failure. Inevitably.
Our education system isn’t built for learning, it’s built for evaluation. It’s built to divide up our young people, to rank them and sort them. It’s a huge competition, disguised as enrichment and opportunity. There are winners and losers - and it’s often clear who those are going to be, years before the end. We expect kids to keep on going in circumstances where an adult would have quit long ago.
I’d like see a system that starts with the needs of the kids who don’t succeed. The ones who won’t get enough GCSEs, who struggle to keep up. I’d like to see us ask ‘how can we provide a great education and start in life for them all?’. And the answer cannot be ‘by making them all do better in their exams’.
Because that’s just not possible.
We need to stop pretending that education could end with a 100% success rate, and instead turn our attention to what happens to those who don’t make the grade. It’s not their fault, it’s built into the system. Let’s stop pretending it’s avoidable and accept that it’s inevitable.
This isn’t about kids doing better or parents pushing harder. The problem is the way that our system is failing a third of our kids, and then, adding insult to injury, convincing them that the real issue is them. That, not success, is what we should be talking about.
Our kids aren’t failures, but the system is failing them. It’s not enough to tell our children they can all succeed. They can’t. It’s a lie. Some will always fail in the school system, and those kids need a hopeful future too.
I speak of neurophysiological nurturing. A lot of people have no real embodied understanding of what I mean so let me for this one time change it to love. Love that is 100% non-sexual. We need an abundance of love, all of us. Many of us never get enough at every stage of our 1/2
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Misogyny in its most basic form is the hatred of our most basic need - neurophysiological nurturing. Nurturing is something we should all get and be able to give. The distain and active violence used against it is patriarchy. Nurturing is our base. Happy Mother’s Day.
Boys are still in the grip of crippling masculine stereotypes: 6 findings from a new survey
Here is my summary of key findings from the new Adolescent Man Box survey
https://t.co/qwWPcHDrN2
Misogyny and patriarchy will never, ever be stopped through education, changing laws or understanding how bad it is. It will be from meeting the needs that patriarchy and misogyny cause. Meeting human needs, especially in the first few decades of life will stop it in its tracks
The act of crying is as necessary as peeing and pooping. It’s a way to clean out stress and distress chemistry. It’s a sign of healing and health. It’s so weird that we apologize for something utterly necessary for our health. This is a side effect of misogyny and patriarchy
🧵Our growing awareness that something is wrong, but not knowing what is the biggest piece of evidence that something vital and essential is missing. In a world super messed up about what neurophysiological Nurtuing we find ourselves asking “what the fuck” all the time. For 1/2