I watched Yul Edochie on Honest Bunch talking about cheating. He said when a woman cheats, she’s already done with the relationship, while a man can cheat with three women and still come home and treat his partner well because he knows how to keep boundaries.
But I hope he realizes some women think exactly like men too. A woman can cheat, come back home and still love that man like he’s the best thing after fried rice.
Some women have mastered the act so well you won’t notice a single thing except you be spirit. Lol.
At the end of the day, just pray you’re married to someone who truly respects and values your union.
I attended my neighbour’s 50th birthday yesterday. She’s a widow with two children. Her husband died about 10 years ago, and she has been raising them with support from her family.
It wasn’t a big party, just a few old school mates attended the party.
But something happened that stayed with me.
During her vote of thanks, she mentioned my name. My heart skipped.
She said, “I also want to appreciate Mr. David. Every night he puts on his generator because of the erratic NEPA light, he gives us power. My daughter used that light to read for her JAMB.”
Then she added, “She scored 303. Now she can study Medicine and Surgery at UI.”
I was shocked.
A small act I didn’t think much of meant so much to someone else.
That moment, I made a quiet decision to keep doing good whenever I can.
Because sometimes, the little things are not little at all.
@ysuckme Sometimes quitting is the smartest move. If you’re so close, but exhausted, burned out, or heading in the wrong direction, walking away can save time, energy, and sanity.
As a Man, You don't always need words to understand your place in a woman's life. Sometimes, the answers are in the things she doesn't do. The conversations she refuses to have. The distance she refuses to acknowledge. The silence she's comfortable letting grow. And slowly, you begin to understand that if she truly wanted you in her life, she wouldn't let things fall apart so easily.😢🫥
I was in a relationship with this cute guy at one point, but every time I talked about him, my cousin always had something negative to say because she knew him too. Along the line, the guy started giving me attitude, even though I hadn’t done anything wrong. Before I knew it, he stopped talking to me completely, and my cousin seemed happy about it.
I decided to go to his place to confront him and find out why he cut me off without any clear explanation. He told me to go back to the person I loved, which left me completely confused. I asked him to explain what he meant, and that’s when he told me my cousin had been telling him things about me… claiming that I was doing things behind his back and making a mockery of him.
I was really upset. After I explained everything to him, he apologized for not trusting me and even begged me not to have any issues with my cousin. I didn’t tell her that I got back with him, but I also didn’t speak to her for almost a month, even though we live under the same roof. That kind of betrayal really hurt 💔
I thought I had found the man I would marry. We were together for 2 years. He had a good job and always said he loved my intelligence and drive.
Last week, he finally agreed to visit my family in the village. My mum was so happy. She spent her last money to cook a special meal and even borrowed a better seat so he would be comfortable.
But when he arrived, his attitude changed. He barely spoke, barely ate, and just looked around.
Two days after he left, he sent me a message I’ll never forget. He said he’s “a man of class” and can’t marry into a family where he’ll become the only hope. He said my background would “pull him down.”
Before I could even respond, he blocked me everywhere.
He didn’t see the love in the food my mum cooked. He didn’t see the sacrifices she made to raise me. He only saw where we came from.
My heart is heavy. Is it now a crime to come from a humble home? Does my hard work mean nothing because of my background? 💔
I once read about the Soldier who didn’t know WWII had ended.
Hiroo Onoda was stationed on an island in the Philippines during World War II.
He refused to believe the war had ended, even when people dropped leaflets telling him so.
He kept hiding and fighting in the jungle for 29 years 😂😂😂
He only surrendered in 1974 when his former commander personally came to relieve him of duty.
10 years ago, I woke up in my UNILAG hostel with a swollen face. Before 10am that day, I had already gotten to Ota to show my mother. By the time I got home, I couldn’t open one of my eyes anymore.
My mother’s first reaction was, “Ahudhubillah.” It looked like an allergic reaction but it wasn’t. I had already been in and out of the hospital since the year started. Little did I know, I hadn’t seen anything yet.
The first hospital said it was an allergic reaction. But before the end of that day, both eyes had almost completely closed. The medication wasn’t working. By the next day, the swelling had spread to my hands and feet.
The next few weeks were the hardest.
Test upon test. Symptom upon symptom. Until the final diagnosis came:
Systemic Lupus Erythematosus.
1. Men know exactly what they are doing. Always remember that.
2. It is not your responsibility to change a man. In fact, you cannot change a man, but you can change the man. Read that again.
3. Men will treat you based on how they feel about you and how you carry yourself. If he’s not treating you with care, he doesn’t like you. Don’t make excuses for him.
4. No man can go a day without talking to a woman he is in love with.
5. An inconsistent man doesn’t like you. Only showing up when it is convenient for him is a red flag 🚩
6. There is no such thing as a nonchalant man. That man doesn’t like you. He’s “chalanting” elsewhere.
7. If a man cheats on you and you find out, and instead of leaving the relationship you choose to stay, he will start seeing you as a foól.
8. Your self-respect must be greater than your feelings and libido. Do not ever beg a man to love you. Begging is disgusting.
9. Men are very thoughtful when they are in love. They make time, plan things, and put effort where their heart is. A low-effort man doesn’t like you.
10. The highest form of love is consideration. Any man who doesn’t consider you, how his actions make you feel, or how to make your life easier within his capacity doesn’t like you. Walk away.
11. Lastly, you accept the love you think you deserve. However a man treats you, if you stay, you are a willing participant, not a victim. If you think you deserve better, you know exactly what to do.
I paid my younger brother's university fees for 4 years. Skipped meals. Wore the same shoes for 2 years. Told my girlfriend to wait. She waited.
The day he graduated, he stood up at the party and said:
"I want to thank God and my parents."
I was sitting right there. 🧵
For those asking if I confronted him, I never did. I told him after I travelled that the embassy told me someone wrote a petition during my submission and that was why it was delayed.
He asked if they gave me a name. I said they did. He said oh okay. That was his last message. It’s been 4 years now.
one of my guy friends was never in favour of marriage. He had a girlfriend who wanted to marry him, but he kept delaying.
long story short, the girl had to leave him because there was no future. Within a few months, he met another girl whom he adored and got engaged to her in 6 months.
now they are getting married this year. This is a real-life example of “if he wants to, he will.”
In 2025 armed robbers invaded my neighbor’s compound, He was a married man with two daughters, They took all his valuable belongings, logged into his bank app withdrew all his money, They also raped his wife without protection, The couple reported the incident to the police with the house CCTV footage, but received no feedback or action. Deeply traumatized, they kept the ordeal secret and avoided sxx for about a month, Later, the wife noticed changes in her body, went for a test, and discovered she was pregnant, Devastated, she told her husband, They decided to ab0rt the pregnancy to hide the shame, Tragically, the wife d!ed during the ab0rtion procedure, & His wife family refused to bury her and demanded that the husband travel to their village to swear by drinking water used to bathe her corpse, to prove that he is not responsible for her death, & the man ran away abandoning his two daughters till date.
The dude even explained the significance of the tattoos over his body. In one of the videos, he explained if in case he was bitten by any poisonous snake during any snake hunt, it slows down a bit the rate of the poison spread from the spot to his heart. Even the lady has hers too. They are South-Africa based couple.
Never put yourself in a position of constant dependence on people.
Human beings can be quite exploitative & ruthless.
When you're at the mercy of anybody for sustenance, they have a lot of power over you & your choices.
And in some cases, your dignity might be stripped off
@SirDavidBent Independence isn’t about never needing help. Everyone needs help.
It’s about never needing permission to live with basic dignity. Build leverage. Multiple skills. Multiple income paths. Multiple doors you can walk through if one closes.
Life is unscripted, and things happen.
Never mock anyone because of their pain or situation whether they are of marriageable age and not yet married, childless, struggling financially, living with a disability, or facing any other challenge.
Sometimes it’s a result of personal choices; other times, life simply happens.
I’ve seen marriages break, parents lose their children, the wealthy become poor, and the able-bodied become disabled.
Life has many twists.
Never say, “It can’t happen to me.”