I don't know how many times I have said this, but I won't get tired of saying it.
Because almost every week, I read from wives who have regrets.
I have told you young women, if you have 10 men who are interested in marrying you, and 9 out of the 10 are below 35.
Please consider the 9 below 35 before considering the one above 35.
And that one who says he's 36 or 37, please verify that he is truly 36 or 37.
We have married women who are not even 35 yet who are already the breadwinners.
And their husbands are in their 40s or 50s.
Stop saying that you like much older men.
Keep the age gap slim and make sure that he's not a lazy man.
If a man that is far older than you says that he wants to marry you, make sure that he's not a struggling man.
He must show signs or evidence that he's doing well, and that his source of income is sustainable.
Do not listen to his pity stories.
Do not listen to "God will provide."
Do not get carried away with his "mature talks."
Do not get carried away by how good he is in bed.
This economy is tough.
And you need young men who would swallow their pride and get their hands dirty to feed, cloth and house you and your future children.
All these above 35 men have uneccesary pride and before you know it, when they get to their 40s, they'll tell you that they're tired and cannot do certain jobs to feed you and pay the bills anymore.
They'll start to depend on you.
If you try to remind them to buckle up, they'll start accusing you of wanting to kill them.
They'll be comparing themselves with their mates who are doing well, even when they have not put in the same effort.
They'll be attending village meetings and performing 'ummuna' upandan.
They'll be going from one church to another, looking for miracles.
They'll be going to the village to look for land that they can sell.
They'll be involving themselves in local politics and placing sports bets and gambling to see if they can make a little money.
And you will be aging faster than you should.
These things that I am warning you against are real, and they happen every day.
If you search within your family, you'd see at least one example of what I am talking about.
A man's most productive years start from 25 and begin to peak from 50.
Anything that he has not been able to achieve at 50, he'll struggle to achieve thereafter.
Except he has built a proper foundation for himself and planned accordingly.
Then that's when you'd see him happy in his 50s and still very responsible towards you and the children.
I am not God, but I know that I have wisdom.
And I also know that men would not be happy with this thread, and I don't care.
End.
@Wizarab10 person wey don lose feelings for you tee tee. She is still benefiting from you. stop giving her money and the remaining thing she called feeling for U will die.
If anybody sees anything wrong in this picture. May thunder, Ogun, breamstorm kpai the person and his or her lineage. What in God's name is the world turning into.
This picture has been trending, with many people expressing their displeasure over it.
Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with a daughter sitting on her father’s lap. It looks like a normal father-daughter moment to me.
But that’s just my opinion.
What do you think about the picture?
A yahoo boy in my village bought a large truck used for transporting sand for ₦15 million.
He hired a driver and paid him ₦75,000 per month.
The man had been driving the truck for over a year.
Two months ago, the yahoo boy refused to pay him, claiming that he had not gone on any trips.
The driver explained that it was not his fault because there was no work due to the heavy rains.
Still, the boy refused to pay him.
Late last month, the driver went on a trip to another state. While there, he called the boy and told him that the truck had broken down on the road.
He said the mechanic estimated the repair would cost ₦200,000.
The boy immediately sent him the money.
When the driver returned from the trip, he parked the truck and disappeared with the ₦200,000
From my DM:
Good evening, Agba.
I have a pressing issue I want to discuss with you.
My Concerns About My Relationship and Upcoming Marriage.
I am 35 years old and a working-class woman earning close to ₦500,000 monthly.
I met my fiancé in November last year, and he is 45 years old. We had our introduction a few months ago, and our wedding is less than two months away.
Initially, when we met, he told me that he was involved in the supply of perfume oil and that he was also a gospel artist.
Later, I discovered that he wasn’t actually supplying perfume oil but selling it in a busy environment. I also discovered that he had not graduated from school.
At 45, he is still struggling financially and does not seem to have much in terms of material possessions. The last time I visited his house, his landlord/lawyer came to give him a quit notice, asking him to vacate the house by January.
This has made me seriously worried that after marriage, I may become the person carrying most or all of the financial responsibilities.
He has not contributed anything to me financially, emotionally, or materially. When we have misunderstandings, he usually does not reach out first.
On his birthday, he repeatedly asked me about his gift until I eventually gave him one. However, on my birthday last Sunday, he came empty-handed but still expected me to cook for him.
Whenever he visits me, he checks my fridge to see what I have. I feel that he is always interested in having the best food without contributing anything.
There was also a day he showed me a particular soup on his phone and told me that was what he wanted me to prepare the next time he came. When I asked him to bring money for the ingredients, he asked me, “Which money?”
He has also asked me how much I earn. I didn’t tell him my actual salary; I understated it by ₦100,000.
When he was supposed to meet my parents, he did not give them a gift or money.
Looking at everything together, I am growing increasingly concerned that I will be the one shouldering the responsibilities if I marry him.
The biggest thing confusing me is that I don’t feel I am getting anything from the relationship financially, emotionally or materially. The main thing I feel is that I am 35 years old, getting older, and I need a man.
I am now seriously afraid that I may be about to take a lifelong step that I will eventually regret.
My brief:
I understand that you are 35 and desperate to get married and have kids.
But you see that 45 year old man, if you get married to him, you'll regret it for the rest of your days that you'd be his wife.
And it's not a curse.
I also do not think that your parents would want to discourage you from marrying him, because they just want to see you married.
Do not listen to any pastor, aunty, friend, or family members that may want to convince you to go ahead with the wedding.
That man is an overgrown baby. And you'll babysit him in that unfortunate marriage.
I hope you take my advice seriously.
End.
What are the odds of coming from a place like this and still making it in life?
I’ve given millions of dollars to charity, but every time I leave a community like this, I realize that I still have so much more to do. Giving is important, but creating lasting change is even greater. Which is why I created a jobs in the state that impacted hundreds of people lives on a daily basis.
Seeing the reality that so many people face reminds me that my purpose goes beyond personal success. I have a responsibility to do more, reach more people, create more opportunities, and make a greater impact on the lives of others.
Success means more when you use it to help someone else rise.
A sales girl is a sales girl. There is no such thing as sales girl wey guide. She was on minimum wage. Your ignorance showed when you said "na better location/store Ronaldo meet am." You think being a sales girl in Knightsbridge or Mayfair means you'll see £50k a year? LMAO
You know nothing about how the system works abroad. But we learn everyday.
You may not see the results yet, but that doesn’t mean your efforts are wasted.
Keep showing up. Keep learning. Keep building.
Quiet seasons still produce strong people.
Remain Positive.