Patti Resendes

Mom of 4 kids - grieving for my oldest son who left us far too soon - Oct. 1/20 at 28 from Glioblastoma. I Love nature, birds, flowers, butterflies, mountains

[Stefan Moore ★ @2StefanMoore]

IF YOU THINK GRIEF HAS A TIME LIMIT, you have likely never lost a piece of your heart. If you think that the days, months and years will somehow erase the extent of the loss, then you have never been unlucky enough to lose a love. You are blessed, my friend.

For life without that piece of you, is a new life indeed. It is a new world when the person you miss is no longer here. Everything looks different and will never look the same again. Every day is a mountain to climb, battling the waves of emotion, when a song plays, a smell reminds or a memory rears. And that never lessens, we only become accustomed to handling it. To hiding it.

You may think time is healing the hurt, then you enter a new phase of your life; a relationship, a child, a grandchild, a new opportunity, and you realise you cannot share that with your missing part. The waves bear down fresh, as they were on the very the first day.

If you think grief has a time limit, my friend, you have never lost a piece of your heart. And for that, you should be truly grateful.

Let the grieving grieve for as long as they must, and if you want to help, love them more.

Love is the only way ❤️

#Repost for all the ones who are grieving. You are not alone.

Wonderfully written by Donna Ashworth ❤️

Beautiful art by
Catrin Welz- Stein ❤️

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

The person who is always afraid someone’s mad at them has often grown up focusing on others needs being met out of their survival. They were shamed for needing help. They got the silent treatment with no warning. They’re on high alert, hoping not to get hurt like that again.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

“But, you’re so strong”

What people don’t see is they’re also so lonely, afraid to ask for what they need, and terrified that if they ask for help they’ll be rejected. There is often a lot of pain the strong people you know are hiding. Strong is sometimes the only option.

[Patti Resendes @pattiresendes]

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[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

You’re not lazy, you’re just exhausted from pretending to be OK. -Dr. Jen

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

While it’s true a lot of people who’ve experienced trauma get stronger, it’s not the kind of strong they wanted. It’s strength that challenges everyday life & forces them to be on high alert. I’m certain most would trade this kind of strong to feel safe & calm…a soul at peace.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

After trauma, the body works with the mind to share when it’s safe to remember, reprocess, heal. You should never be pushed. Listen to the voice that says “I’m not ready.” When it’s time, healing will come because you paused. No one knows what it costs to remember more than you.

[Stefan Moore ★ @2StefanMoore]

“Let's end the habit of telling a grieving heart that the person they lost is "in a better place". If they want to say that, that's fine. But you saying that to them is usually not helfpul. Because they want them here. With them. In the physical form.”

[Stefan Moore ★ @2StefanMoore]

“There is a whole world of grief that no one can understand until they walk through it. And, once you are through it, you will never be the same. You will hurt as you never have. You will break as you never have. And you will savor life as you never have.”

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Trauma doesn’t make you stronger. It wreaks havoc on your nervous system. It hijacks your digestive track. It keeps you stuck in a loop of hyper vigilance. To suggest someone is stronger because of it is to dismiss what they’ve had to do to survive.

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

You’re NOT lazy. You’re exhausted from the grief and trauma you’ve endured. Also, one very real response to trauma is shutting down - according to polyvagal theory this is called dorsal vagal shut-down. It’s when you freeze and maybe even dissociate, have little energy, and feel stuck. Obviously we are accountable for the healing, AND also, please give yourself GRACE. @drjenwolkin

[Jenn Granneman @JennGranneman]

When introverts are overwhelmed or stressed, they might stop talking to everyone for a while. It’s their way of dealing with stuff. They just need some alone time to think things through and feel better. So, give them a little space, and don’t take it personally.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Often times when someone is criticizing you by saying “you’re too sensitive” or “you’re too much” their subconscious is saying “this is too honest” and “I’m scared of this truth.”

[goodgrief app @goodgriefapp]

“There's no tragedy in life like the death of a child. Things never get back to the way they were.” ~Dwight D. Eisenhower

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

You’re NOT lazy. You’re exhausted from the grief and trauma you’ve endured. A VERY real response to trauma is shutting down - according to polyvagal theory this is called dorsal vagal shut-down. Its when you freeze and maybe even dissociate, have little energy, and feel stuck. Obviously we’re accountable for the healing, AND also, please give yourself GRACE. @drjenwolkin

[Patti Resendes @pattiresendes]

@FionaOdlum I love it!

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Don’t underestimate the value of sitting quietly with someone when they’re in pain. Let them talk. Listen to hear. There is profound healing in someone experiencing your care by offering your presence and withholding your advice.

[Stefan Moore ★ @2StefanMoore]

When you survive a loss, everyone is quick to tell you how strong you are & how tough you must be. The reality is that no one has a choice to survive grief. It's not optional.

[Shannon Adams @CPAmom6]

If someone ever took the time to record the gut wrenching screams of a mother who lost her child … the would hear the most painful soul gutting sound a human soul could bear! The pain is unspeakable and for a mom unfathomable!!! 💔💔💔