Men basically have two choices. Extreme discipline now or extreme pain in a few years. Unfortunately the brain isn't really hardwired for long-term thinking. So most men fail at this test.
I keep meeting men in their thirties who still talk about what they’re “going to do” like they’re still twenty-two. At some point the dream stops being a dream and becomes a lie you tell yourself so you don’t have to admit you got scared and stayed small. The clock is not waiting for you to feel ready.
Work hard. More than folks you know in your circle.
12 hours. 16 hours. After 10 PM. Doesn't matter.
Work hard. And you will outsmart the smartest folks you know.
Highly ambitious men often make extraordinary partners, but very few people speak honestly about how difficult it can be to be with them. The degree of loneliness that accompanies loving such a man is immense.
You are perpetually sharing him with the future he is trying to build. His mind is occupied by the empire, vision, responsibility of constructing something larger than himself. And because of that, there are long stretches where you feel alone, even while deeply loved.
Men like this need women who possess an interior life of their own, women capable of building alongside them rather than merely waiting for attention. A woman who can contribute meaningfully to the empire itself understands the architecture of his absence better than most.
There is something deeply saddening about this dynamic, yet strangely beautiful too. And truthfully, if it were otherwise, I do not think I would want it. Some forms of love are inseparable from sacrifice.
You endure it for your future generations, for yourselves and the possibility of creating something that exceeds both of you.
You are your own worst enemy. You waste precious time dreaming of the future instead of engaging in the present. Since nothing seems urgent to you, you are only half involved in what you do. The only way to change is through action and outside pressure.
No one wants to hear it but you will have to *work* on everything that is worth having in life.
Your career, your relationships, your health - whatever it is...
So if you don't want to work for it, be prepared to be very disappointed in the quality of everything you get.
Take care of your appearance. Lift the weights. Eat healthy foods. Sleep like an athlete. Dress like you care. Fix your posture. Moisturize your face. Take care of your skin. Your looks are your business card. Make it look like you care about yourself.