JJ Samson

WE ONLY LIVE ONCE. LIVE WISELY.🤠

[Thatcuteteacher @Confydens6]

The subject matter may be betting.

But, if you’re truly “logical” enough as a man…

You should understand the many reasons why I completely cut that guy off.

I’ll explain.

Let’s keep the betting aside and focus on a few things I couldn’t overlook:

1. Poor judgment and discretion.

On no account should you tell a lady you are wooing that you played bet. That’s very weird. There’s no wisdom in that.

If he can say that, it means he can say anything to anyone he has a little soft spot for.

That’s dangerous to our future.

2. Loose tongue.

Not just that you told her you played bet, you also told her you bet with your aunt’s money. How exactly did he think I’d see him afterwards?

A man who talks too much is a woman with a d!ck.

I didn’t need that detail. Very unnecessary.

3. Lack of financial prudence.

You’d receive salary and spend (let’s say) 20% of it playing bet.

Let’s assume he makes 300k monthly.

20% of 300k is 60,000.

If he plays bet for 1 year.

60,000 × 12 = 720,000.

That’s the first school fees of his first child.

Let’s say… he has been betting for 2 years.

720,000 × 2 = 1,440,000.

Enough to buy a tiny piece of land in the outskirts of Abuja, that could appreciate to millions in 5 years.

4. Unreliable.

Money that was entrusted to your hands by your aunt, to keep for a project, you are playing bet with it.

The devils must be fanning the flames of madness with your picture.

5. Greed, poor priorities, and financial irresponsibility.

Tell me, how do you finally rectify the issue with your bank account, and instead of refunding your aunt her money… you decided to play another bet?

“One for the road”?

6. Delusional thinking and a dangerous sense of entitlement.

How are you bragging to me that, “this one is sure”?

The ones you have been playing and losing, did you not also brag that they were “sure”?

How come you lost?

Now, what happens if you get unlucky, and get nothing, “as usual”?

And why the hell are you even telling me?

If you are still saying… “the problem is with our leaders”…

You are deliberately choosing to be blind.

I am big at observing.

And when I say “yes”, you must have proven beyond reasonable doubt that you are worth it.

So, turning him down was not just for the fact that he gambles (even if it’s the core reason).

But, behind the cave, there were cankerworms.

And you don’t overlook cankerworms.

[Frankey @frankjankjink]

This is really shameful
Even when they knew they were being recorded.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@jon_d_doee Amen

[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

When you go into a lady's DM and you introduce yourself properly and than she responds properly.

Please do not indulge her with excessive texting.

Many ladies do not know how to express themselves in writing.

Politely ask for her phone number and ask if you can call her.

If she obliges you, give her a call and speak like a mature man and engage her in conversations that are healthy and polite.

Do not start going to her WhatsApp to chat with her because you have her number.

Call her like 3 more times and ensure that the calls last at least 5-10 minutes each time.

Then ask her for a date and a convienient time that both of you can meet.

Do not start inviting her to your house.

Once she agrees to a date, prepare for it, look good and smell good.

Then go for your date.

Ensure that you pay for whatever both of you consume on that date.

Then part ways respectfully.

Do not try to give her a hug and avoid unnecessary touching.

Tell her thank you for honoring your invitation for a date and go home.

Give it time, and call her one more time to ensure that she arrived safe.

Then don't call her again.

Don't even text her.

If she's interested in seeing you again, she'll be the one to reach out.

A mature lady will even call you and spend some time on the call with you.

If that happens, ask her for another date.

Then on the second date, you can then ask her to be your girlfriend and tell her who you think she is the one you wish to try with.

If she doesn't give you any response (positive or negative), don't push it.

After the date, repeat the same thing by calling her to know if she arrived safely.

Then call her another day to ask her if she has given your request a thought.

If she is still not forthcoming, quietly block her in your mind and move on to the next avaliable woman.

She doesn't have any receipts of you asking her out in a chat.

Do not call her again, even if you truly like her.

If she likes you, she'll be the one to start initiating calls, texts and meet ups.

AJD.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce @jon_d_doe The main thing is all should believe in the existence of God. whether you are a Christian, Muslim or traditionalist

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

I know this question makes a lot of you men uncomfortable because it forces you to look beyond your bank account.

Firstly, I have to admit that I misunderstood @Wizarab10 many times whenever he spoke about the responsibilities of husbands and wives in a healthy marriage. All i was reading was 50/50, but if you read with wisdom, you will understand he is talking about 100/100 which is what a healthy marriage should be. Both of you have to pour completely into one another.

Most times, I only came across snippets of his posts without the full context, so I interpreted them differently. Recently, I took the time to read his arguments in full, challenged my own perspective, and I now understand the intention behind what he has been saying.

Ladies and gentlemen, Money is important. No mature woman is pretending it isn't. It provides security, creates opportunities, and makes life easier. But there are women, myself included, who earn their own money, pay their own bills, and are looking for something far more valuable than financial provision.

When you meet that kind of woman, what else do you have to offer?

• Can you make her feel emotionally safe?
• Can you communicate without manipulation, insults, or the silent treatment?
• Can you lead with wisdom rather than control?
• Can you remain faithful when temptation presents itself?
• Can you apologise when you're wrong, or does your ego always need to win?
• Can you protect her peace instead of becoming the reason she loses it?
• Can you keep your word even when it's inconvenient?
• Can you support her dreams instead of competing with them?
• Can you remain consistent after the honeymoon phase is over?
• Can you love through your actions, not just your promises?

The truth is, beauty fades. Money comes and goes. Careers rise and fall. Life has seasons. If a relationship is built solely on temporary things, it will eventually struggle under the weight of reality. Take a look at Nigerian economy today and you will understand the point of this post.

✔️Character never goes out of fashion.
✔️Integrity never loses value.Respect never becomes outdated.
✔️Emotional intelligence never stops being attractive.
✔️Loyalty never becomes cheap.
✔️Purpose never loses relevance.

A man with these qualities remains valuable whether he has £100 or £100 million because his worth was never tied to his wallet.

The same applies to women. A relationship built on what money can buy will always be fragile. A relationship built on character, mutual respect, trust, emotional maturity, shared purpose, and genuine partnership has a far greater chance of standing the test of time. This is why I believe @jon_d_doe's perspective is a good benchmark for a healthy and sustainable marriage.

If your wallet is the only thing keeping someone with you, then your wallet is carrying the relationship. Money can make life easier, but it cannot buy genuine love, loyalty, respect, submission or fidelity. These things i have mentioned are not commodities, they are earned through character, integrity,emotional maturity, consistency and the way you treat your partner every single day.

So I'll ask the question again.

What do you have to offer if you meet a woman who is not impressed by your money?

Your answer will reveal whether you've built your value around your possessions or around the person you've become.

And before anyone misunderstands me, this is not an argument against men providing. Provision is an important responsibility "in marriage".

The point is that provision alone is not enough. If the relationship is built on one person constantly giving while the other simply receives, then the foundation is already unbalanced.

Healthy relationships thrive on mutual sacrifice, mutual respect, and mutual investment.

I hope you take the time to sit with yourself, reflect deeply, and honestly examine both the person you have become and the relationship you have built so far.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce Thank you for sharing.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce Can you spell it out for me? Apart from provision what else do you require from a man?

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce I don't know what to give again. Because my role is already defined to provide for which involves money . Outside that I am confused what to offered

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@ruffydfire 5k

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce Thank you for appreciating it.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce I give credit to you for your beautiful write up that makes me to turn it into an AI video.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce Great

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

Marriage was never designed to survive on money alone, just as it was never designed to thrive on beauty, submission, or domestic skills alone.

A healthy marriage is built when two whole people choose to give themselves wholeheartedly to one another.

Before you think about marriage, ask yourself a simple question: Apart from what I can provide, what value do I bring into a relationship?

Can you provide peace? Can you communicate with honesty? Can you remain faithful when life becomes difficult? Can you lead without controlling? Can you support without manipulating? Can you forgive, encourage, grow, and remain dependable through every season?

These are the questions that prepare you for marriage, not simply the ability to earn money or perform traditional roles.

Many men unknowingly tie their identity to their ability to provide financially. When life changes and money becomes scarce, some lose their sense of purpose because they never discovered who they were beyond their income. Their pride begins to replace their leadership.

Likewise, many women unknowingly tie a man's worth to his financial capacity. The moment his income changes, so does their respect, support, and willingness to submit.

Both mindsets are unhealthy.

A man's value should never be measured solely by his wallet. His character, integrity, emotional maturity, wisdom, resilience, and leadership are just as valuable.

In the same way, a woman's value extends far beyond her beauty (beauty fades with age), domestic abilities, or willingness to submit. She brings wisdom, emotional stability, compassion, partnership, and strength into the home.

Submission and respect should never exist to feed a man's ego. They are not automatic responses owed to every man. They grow naturally where trust, consistency, love, character, and good leadership exist.

This is why a woman may willingly submit to and deeply respect her husband while interacting very differently with a stranger. One relationship has earned that trust. The other has not.

The same principle applies to love, honour, and commitment. They flourish where they are cultivated.

This is why I have never believed that healthy marriages are built on 50/50.

The idea sounds fair, but it quietly encourages people to give only half of themselves. Half the commitment. Half the sacrifice. Half the responsibility. Half the vulnerability. It creates room for scorekeeping instead of partnership.

Healthy marriages are built on 100/100.

Not because both people will always contribute in exactly the same way, but because both choose to be fully invested. They bring their whole hearts, their full commitment, and their best intentions into the relationship every single day.

When you give all of yourself to your marriage, there is less room for emotional distance, divided loyalties, infidelity, and betrayal. Not because temptation disappears, but because your heart is fully committed to what you are building. You stop looking elsewhere because you are intentionally investing where your future already exists.

A 100/100 marriage also changes how responsibilities are viewed. Raising children is 100/100.
Protecting your marriage is 100/100.
Building your home is 100/100.
Managing finances is 100/100.
Supporting each other's dreams is 100/100.

The responsibilities may look different from one couple to another, but the commitment should never be one-sided.

Marriage was designed to be a partnership where two people complement one another's strengths, carry each other's weaknesses, and pursue the same vision.

Sadly, fear has become one of the greatest barriers of marriage.

Many women hesitate to give wholeheartedly because they have seen men misuse their sacrifices through infidelity, deception, or irresponsible decisions.

Many men hesitate to give wholeheartedly because they fear being used, manipulated, disrespected, or abandoned after years of sacrifice.

Check comment for the rest👇👇

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce Great write up

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

@Maggiewitdsauce @jon_d_doe 😂😂 to enter relationship come dey fear me

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

Marriage is Partnership.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

Marriage is Partnership.

[JJ Samson @penielsam_]

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