Faridah JikarCiroma

E Pluribus Unum • Once bitten Twice Shy

[Faridah JikarCiroma @pharydah006]

Alhamdulillah Ya Allah, thank you for the blessing that is Amani❤️
2019 has been second to none
Ko yanzu kasuwa ya tashi dan koli yayi riba.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

Every time you fall you don't just "feel guilty."
You weaken the very connection that opens your doors.

You want more rizq? More peace?
More barakah in your work?

Start by addressing what Allah sees from you in private. Because that's where your real life is being decided.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

You say:
"Maybe it's just not written for me…"

No, akhi.
Maybe your cycle is blocking what was written for you.
Let that sit.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

Zina kills 3 things silently:

• Your connection with Allah
• Your self-respect
• Your ability to hold onto barakah

And without these even when opportunities come, they slip through your hands.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

Rizq isn't just about effort.
It's about the state of your heart.

You can hustle 10 hours a day…but if your nights are spent in zina,don't be surprised when your days feel heavy, stuck, and empty.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

You're asking Allah for barakah…
while committing zina in private.

You want doors to open—
but you keep disobeying the One who controls them.

That contradiction matters more than you think.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

Zina is blocking your rizq.

You pray. You work. You make du'a.
But nothing moves.

Here's why:

[Aisha Hamman @AyshaHamman]

In 2018, while working as a community mobiliser on a sexual and reproductive health and rights project in Kano State, we regularly engaged women in rural communities. During one of those sessions, a woman said to us:

“Malama, don Allah, kamar yadda kuke tara mata kuna koya mana abubuwa, don Allah ku dinga tara mazajenmu kuna nuna musu muhimmancin zuwa asibiti da neman magani. Saboda sau da yawa za ki ga muna fama da infection ko sanyi. Idan mun je asibiti an ba mu magani, ana ce mana mu gaya wa mazajenmu su zo su karɓi magani, saboda idan mun warke su ba su warke ba, za su iya sake sa mana cutar. Amma mazajenmu sai su ƙi zuwa asibiti, su ce wai muna tona musu asiri. Wani ma zai iya sakin matarsa saboda ta gaya masa ya je asibiti. Ita kuma idan an sake ta, wani lokacin samun wani mijin yana zama da wahala, saboda ana cewa ba ta iya rufa wa mijinta asiri.”

In translation, she was saying:

“Please, just as you gather women and educate us, we would appreciate it if you also engaged our husbands and taught them the importance of going to the hospital and receiving treatment for sexually transmitted infections. Many times, we suffer from infections and, when we go to the hospital, we are treated and advised to bring our husbands for treatment too, because if we recover while they remain untreated, they may infect us again. But when we ask our husbands to go to the hospital, some become offended and accuse us of exposing their shame. In some cases, a man may even divorce his wife for asking him to seek treatment. A woman divorced under such circumstances may also struggle to remarry because she becomes stigmatised and accused of being unable to conceal her husband’s shame.”

This was in 2018, and in 2026, you are promoting the dangerous idea that a “good wife” is one who hears but pretends not to hear, sees but pretends not to see and remains silent regardless of what her husband does, all in the name of preserving the dignity of marriage.

Who raised you guys to think like this?

Since when did “matar rufin asiri” come to mean a woman who must ignore persistent betrayal, silence herself and protect a grown man from the consequences of his own choices? Do you not realise that protecting the privacy of a marriage is not the same as concealing misconduct or tolerating repeated infidelity or sacrificing one’s dignity, health and peace to preserve a man’s public image.

Islam does not normalise zina or present infidelity as an ordinary male weakness that women must tolerate. It, in contrast, treats sexual immorality as a grave offence. So what makes anyone think it is acceptable to normalise cheating, or gaslight women into enabling wayward partners who behave as though infidelity is their birthright, and then condemn every woman who chooses to walk away because she cannot continue living with a man alleged to be a chronic womaniser?

Why should the responsibility for a man’s discipline, loyalty and sexual conduct be transferred to his wife? Why should she be praised for pretending not to see what threatens her emotional and physical well-being, while he is excused from accountability?

Please do not use this mindset to raise your daughters, whether you have them now or may have them in the future. This thinking is one of the reasons many women are suffering and dying in silence, are repeatedly infected with life-threatening sexually transmitted infections because they are taught that their chastity is synonymous with overlooking their husband’s inadequacies. You’re suggesting women should remain trapped in harmful marriages because society tells them that marriage is “for better or worse” and that a woman’s virtue is measured by how much humiliation, betrayal and danger she can endure without speaking.

A woman who truly loves you and wants the best for you in both worlds would never turn deaf ears or a blind eye to wrongdoing by pretending not to see it.

Ka je ka nema ilimi.

[A.I. Mudi @abdallah_mudi]

Allah ya isa. Whoever has a hand in the insecurity plaguing our country, may Allah deal with them justly.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

There’s one sin that destroys your mind, iman, tahajjud, Rizq and Barakah

[Sadiq G sadiq @sadiqGsadiq]

And when you are in a position to connect your friends to opportunities please do without hesitation, a rich circle is a happy circle.

[Mia♡ @luxemiaa]

and made his own plate, completely unaware that he had narrowly avoided being spoiled for the next several decades.

I’m 34 now and I still remember that conversation.

At the time, it seemed like a small moment.

Now I realize my mom was giving her one of the best pieces of marriage advice I’ve ever heard.

Set the standard early.

And never create a job for yourself that an adult is fully capable of doing alone.

[Mia♡ @luxemiaa]

I was 16 when my 18-year-old brother got married.

I remember one night we were all at my mom’s house for dinner. My new sister-in-law was making herself a plate and, trying to be a good wife, she started making one for my brother too.

He didn’t ask her to.

He wasn’t expecting it.

He didn’t even know she was doing it.

Before she could hand it to him, my mom quietly pulled her aside.

She told her to put the plate back.

Then she said, “He has two perfectly good hands. If you start doing this now, he’ll expect it for the rest of your life.”

My sister-in-law looked surprised, but she listened.

My brother got up a few minutes later and........

[Maryam Ado Sa’adu @Maaryam_Ado]

@JijiNigeria one of my staff made a payment to one of your vendors for a laptop. On getting full payment for the laptop, the vendor informed him that the price has now increased by over 30k and he can’t get the laptop until it’s paid; he won’t refund either because amount has to/

[Faridah JikarCiroma @pharydah006]

@OgaShehu Special what🤯?
😂😂😂😂😂

[🇵🇸رشفات من المعرفة(Mrs) @FadimatuAmeen]

Toh ai ko musulunci bai basu wannan daman ba tunda ba muharramanta bane.

Ko kai kanka in kayi tafiya an ce kagayamata sanda zaka dawo dawuri ballantana en uwa da akwai katanga tsakaninsu. Kuna daga Al’ada sama da addini

[Muhammad Yaasiin @Hajjyass70]

It takes a lot of faith to be a Muslim; otherwise, the hypocrisy of these Arab nations isn’t only shocking but heartbreaking. But Alhamdulillah, Islam doesn’t belong to any racial group.

[A.I. Adamu @isasquare]

Thats if you ignore the fact that most women live a better life under their parents care, or their own income.
If marriage were a financial welfare, many women would not marry coz there is no incentive there.

[Babangida @iambabangida_]

Meet Nathaniel Samuel, a Nigerian
Christian underwear bomber who was caught attempting to bomb a church in Kaduna State !!!

He initially disguised his name as Muhammad in an attempt to frame Muslims !!!

Had he not been caught, his crime would have been automatically attributed to Muslims !!!

This highlights the ongoing injustice of deliberately painting Muslims and Islam in a negative light globally !!!

[Hon Henry Shield @HonShield]

You are serving in the APC, you have declared Tinubu as your candidate for the coming election, yet you want to control the PDP?

Thank you Governors Bala and Makinde. This is beyond PDP, Nigeria must not descend into a one-party state.

[Brother Leader @daldino]

🤣😂 first, it was Gen Burutai siding with him
Now, DHQ
Nothing go happen to that boy. Hes proven his loyalty.
Everyone would want a boy like him by his side.