@DadOfAubrey@SandsUK I don’t disagree with you, and neither I suspect do Sands, hence their framing.
Plus I misread it the first time I read it. What’s not a credible framing is “the target has been missed”, when the evidence isn’t yet out. It’s important to deal in facts, I think, not speculation?
Happy twelfth birthday kiddo.
“Twelve” has hit me hard today - it’s passed in the blink of an eye. It feels like you arrived just yesterday and yet somehow also feels an eternity ago.
I love you more than words can ever explain, and by golly I miss you. 🌲💙
@DadOfAubrey@CiaraOnly1@KenZeroHarm@UKChange So it comes back to your 1/ - the key here is building a system around compassion, understanding harm, and facilitating choice for bereaved families.
@DadOfAubrey@CiaraOnly1@KenZeroHarm@UKChange However, you cannot mandate something upon trusts over which they have no control.
Similarly, registrars have a wide range of responsibilities, and the existence of this one (albeit a tragic one) does not negate all the other aspects of their role.
2/
@DadOfAubrey@CiaraOnly1@KenZeroHarm@UKChange Sorry, I should have been clearer - many units around the country facilitate the attendance of a Registrar to hospital *before a family goes home*
I expect you’re right about the 2 reasons some units don’t have this, so again the Q is “what needs to happen to make this happen?”
@CiaraOnly1@DadOfAubrey@KenZeroHarm@UKChange@JimfromOldham So the question for units where choices other than this often brutal one (which some families will choose) aren’t available is “what needs to happen to improve choice and compassion for families in this aspect of their journey?”
@CiaraOnly1@DadOfAubrey@KenZeroHarm@UKChange@JimfromOldham I blogged about the first time three years later - https://t.co/FhPclEfpmh
My local hospital moved fast, setting up an arrangement to enable Registrars to attend the hospital to avoid exactly this.
This option is widely available across the country now.
@FionaWinserRamm Martin House is a brilliant facility that provides such amazing support to so many in our area - and what incredible fundraising efforts from Caroline and Michael in Evelyn’s memory.
There’s still so much to do. I only hope that in the weeks and months to come, we’ll see different, conflicting, agendas put to one side and a universal focus on building the system up to make it better emerges - because *that’s* how we make things better for families too.
And yet, a decade on, we’re still not where we need to be, and in some ways the landscape is more problematic than I’ve known it at any point in the nearly-twelve-years since the reality of perinatal death became my reality completely out of the blue in the blink of an eye.