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My father refused to let my younger brother travel for “just one month”
My brother hated him for it.
Three years later, we found out what my father had known all along.
And till today, none of us have recovered from that conversation.
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It happened during Father's Day season in 2023.
My younger brother, Tunde, had just finished NYSC and was desperate to “make it”
One evening, one of his friends called with exciting news.
There was a construction job in another state. Good pay. Free accommodation. They only needed young men willing to work hard.
Tunde was over the moon.
“Mummy, this is my breakthrough”
He had already packed his clothes before the week ended.
Everybody was happy.
Everybody except my father.
The man didn't say much. He just sat quietly and kept asking strange questions.
“Who is employing you?”
“What company?”
“Where is the office?”
“Who signed the appointment letter?”
My brother became irritated.
“Daddy, opportunity won't wait forever. My friends are already preparing”
My father only nodded.
The next morning, he said something that shocked everybody.
“You are not going”
The whole house exploded.
My mother begged.
I argued with him.
Even Tunde shouted.
“Daddy, you don't want me to progress!”
But my father refused to explain himself.
He simply said:
“If you hate me for ten years, hate me. You are not going”
For the first time in my life, I saw my brother cry out of anger.
For weeks, he barely spoke to my father.
Anytime Daddy entered the sitting room, Tunde would stand up and leave.
He accused the old man of jealousy.
He accused him of wickedness.
My father said nothing.
He would only answer with:
“One day, you will understand”
Six weeks later, one of the boys who travelled with that same group came back.
Thin.
Scared.
And completely different.
That was when we heard the truth.
There was no construction company.
No proper accommodation.
Nothing.
The boys had been taken to an isolated camp where they were forced into illegal activities.
Some escaped.
Some disappeared.
Some families never heard from their sons again.
When that boy came to our house and mentioned the names of the young men who had travelled, my brother sat down on the floor.
He couldn't speak.
My father quietly stood up and went inside.
Nobody followed him.
That evening, I found him sitting alone on the veranda.
I asked him softly,
“Daddy, how did you know?”
He smiled.
“I didn't know”
I was confused.
He continued.
“I just knew something was wrong. Everything was too rushed. Too secretive. Too sweet”
Then he looked at me and said something I'll never forget.
“A father doesn't need to be right every time. Sometimes God only asks him to stand in the way”
That sentence stayed with me.
But the real shock came months later.
My mother told me something she had kept to herself.
Apparently, after everyone had gone to bed that night, she woke up around 2 a.m. and found my father in the sitting room.
Alone.
Praying.
Not sleeping.
Not watching television.
Praying.
She heard him saying:
“Lord, if this boy hates me for the rest of my life, let him hate me. Just don't let me bury my son”
My mother said she quietly went back to the bedroom and cried.
Because she realized something.
My father wasn't enjoying being the villain.
He was terrified.
He just chose his son's safety over his son's approval.
Eventually, the anger disappeared.
Tunde apologized.
Daddy laughed and said,
“So now I am no longer your enemy?”
Everybody laughed.
Life moved on.
Today, my brother owns his own business.
He has two children.
And every Father's Day, he calls our father before anyone else.
Last year, I heard him tell Daddy something that brought tears to my eyes.
He said:
From the way you held it and your message, I'm sure it has sprayed you. The chemical it sprayed you with, pederin, is more potent than cobra venom.
You're holding a rove beetle, commonly called skirt and blouse in Nigeria.
Let me prepare your mind for what's coming. You'll soon start noticing a reddish swelling that burns on your skin. It would look like hot water was poured on you. If you rub the affected part with other parts, it may also spread. The symptom persists for a week or more.
To avoid the spreading of symptoms, wash the affected area with clean, fresh water and soap and in case of eyes rinse them with fresh water. There are antibiotics and pharmaceutical creams (topical steroids) that you can get to help with alleviate the symptoms. You can go to the hospital for this.
Female rove beetles are the only ones that can manufacture pederin. Males can only store little that they got from their mother when she laid the eggs.
Once disappointment replaces admiration, it’s hard to bring back the version of her that once loved effortlessly. That’s why emotional consistency matters more than temporary charm. Words can attract someone, but emotional security is what keeps love alive. Once a woman feels emotionally drained instead of emotionally fulfilled, the relationship slowly starts losing its meaning to her, no matter how strong the connection once was.
She keeps giving chances, hoping things improve, until one day she no longer feels the same. By then, the distance is already there. People underestimate how much emotional connection affects intimacy. When disappointment builds up, attraction often follows it out the door. A woman who once wanted your attention, your touch, your time, and your presence can become emotionally cold simply because she got tired of carrying emotional pain in silence.
The moment she starts feeling alone in a relationship, the excitement fades, the passion weakens, and even affection starts feeling forced. A woman’s emotions are tied to how safe, valued, and understood she feels. When promises keep getting broken, effort becomes one-sided, communication dies, or respect disappears, her feelings begin shutting down little by little. And the scary part is that it usually doesn’t happen overnight. It happens silently.
Women lose sexual interest when they're emotionally disappointed, and I’m not going to argue about that. A woman can love you deeply, stay loyal, support you through hard times, and still slowly disconnect the moment she feels unheard, unappreciated, or emotionally neglected. Most people think attraction disappears because of looks, time, or routine, but emotional disappointment is what quietly changes everything.
My ex-boyfriend used to jokingly accuse me of cheating so often that eventually I stopped noticing how strange it was.
If my phone buzzed, he’d go:
“Who’s that? Your other boyfriend?”
If I took too long replying:
“Damn, must be with somebody.”
Always smiling.
Always playful.
Just enough to make me feel guilty without technically accusing me of anything.
After about a year together, I started over-explaining everything automatically.
Sending photos of where I was without being asked.
Updating him constantly.
Avoiding certain male coworkers because I knew their names annoyed him.
One night we were at his apartment watching a movie when he suddenly got a FaceTime call around 1 AM.
He instantly declined it.
I remember the exact feeling I had in my stomach because for the first time, his reaction looked… practiced.
Not surprised.
Not confused.
Just fast.
I asked who it was.
He laughed and said:
“Relax, you’re becoming paranoid now.”
PARANOID.
The same man who spent two years treating me like a suspect suddenly wanted to act concerned about my trust issues.
That’s when something in my brain finally clicked.
A few days later while he was asleep, I checked his phone for the first time in our entire relationship.
There were three different women.
Not random flirting.
Full relationships.
One of them genuinely thought she was going to marry him.
Another had photos with his family from holidays I didn’t even know existed.
But the worst part was discovering screenshots of MY social media in a group chat with his friends where he mocked me for being “obsessed” with him.
One message literally said:
“She’s so scared of losing me now she reports her entire day like a receptionist 💀”
I sat there staring at the screen realizing he had slowly trained me into becoming the insecure girlfriend he could later make fun of.
And honestly?
That’s the part people don’t talk about enough with manipulative relationships.
Sometimes the damage isn’t that they hurt you.
It’s that they carefully reshape your personality first…
so your reaction to the hurt becomes useful to them too.
If you choose A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage a house full time by herself. if you choose A HOUSEWIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY and you will have to provide for everything. if you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN, you should accept that she DEPENDS on you to lead. if you choose to be with a STRONG WOMAN, you should accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways..
10) Learn to swim. It's not just a sport or recreational activity. Swimming is literally a life skill on a planet covered in nearly 3X more water than land.
11) Learn first aid. Might not always be useful to you (if you're unconscious), but the skill will save someone near you including loved ones.
12) Always make a backup of digital files: your phone, computer, and of important documents, etc. Store the backups in a different location. It could save you.
13) Tell at least one trusted person the passwords to your critical systems and accounts. The world has gone digital and much of our lives, assets and money are now online, but locked behind passwords and digital keys. If you pass away suddenly, they could stay locked and lost forever.
As a woman, before getting pregnant. Know the following as true:
1. Your height can reduce
2. You can lose or grow a tooth and develop sensitive gums.
3. Your nose gets bigger and in some cases never goes back to normal .
4. You can gain or lose weight massively.
5. Your hair grows thicker but can you lose your front hair .
6. Your brain adjusts to help bond with your baby (baby brain) hence the forgetfulness and it can remain that way.
7. Your voice can get deeper and hoarse
8. Your skin develops tags and melasma (dark patches)
9. Your feet can grow bigger and may never get back to normal
10. You can develop a strong sense of smell or lose it.
11. Your rib cage expands to accommodate the growing baby .
12. Your life is at risk and you’re never coming back the same way.
Let me put you on to something (update) that can genuinely change your financial life for good.
Go to the App Store or Google Play Store and download any of these language learning apps: Duolingo, Babbel, or Busuu.
Pick one language and commit to it. French, German, Spanish, or Portuguese. Study consistently for 6 to 12 months, then sit the official certification exam for your chosen language.
- For French, that is the DELF/DALF exam.
- For German, it is the Goethe-Zertifikat.
- For Spanish, it is the DELE.
- For Portuguese, it is the CELPE-Bras.
These certificates are internationally recognized and that is what employers actually want to see.
Once you are certified, start applying. Here is where to look:
The United Nations Careers Portal (https://t.co/yhE1JecxDm) hires Translators, Interpreters, Language Editors, and Verbatim Reporters. These are mostly onsite roles in New York, Geneva, Vienna, or Nairobi. Entry-level salary starts around $60,000 to $80,000 per year.
The French, German, or Spanish Embassies in your country regularly hire Local Staff Interpreters, Cultural Program Officers, and Administrative Officers who are bilingual. These are onsite roles paying roughly $30,000 to $60,000 per year depending on country.
The European Union Careers Portal (https://t.co/nRbtXcVLUL) recruits Linguists, Translators, and Conference Interpreters. Mostly onsite in Brussels or Luxembourg. Starting salary ranges from €4,000 to €8,000 per month.
Platforms like ProZ, Upwork, and TransPerfect hire freelance Translators and Remote Interpreters. These are fully remote. Rates run between $25 and $60 per hour depending on your language pair and experience.
The African Development Bank, World Bank, and IMF also regularly post roles for Language Officers and Regional Interpreters, especially for French and Portuguese speakers across Africa.
One language. 6 to 12 months. A globally recognized certificate. That is all it takes to unlock doors that most people do not even know exist.
The information is free. The choice is yours.
Above all, love God.
How some of your favourite celebrities dressed to the #AMVCA... like a few Specialties in Medicine.
1) Cardiology (heart) ...because this is the heart of the matter. Don't stop beating!
The research behind this is wild. Your kitchen sponge has the same density of bacteria as human stool. German scientists found 54 billion bacterial cells per cubic centimeter inside used sponges in 2017. Yours is sitting right next to your sink.
Sponges are the perfect home for bacteria. They are wet, warm, full of food bits, and never fully dry between washes. Across all 14 sponges, the team found 362 different types of bacteria. The most common species include strains that can make people sick.
In 2011, the public health group NSF International swabbed 30 things in 22 American homes. The dirtiest object in the entire house was the kitchen sponge. It was dirtier than the toilet seat. 75% of the sponges tested positive for the kind of bacteria that includes Salmonella and E. coli.
Microwaving does not clean the sponge. The 2017 study found microwaved sponges had higher amounts of the smelliest, most harmful bacteria. Heat kills the weak strains. The strong ones survive and refill the sponge with no competition for space.
A 2021 Norwegian study compared kitchen sponges to dish brushes. In brushes, Salmonella was wiped out within three days because the bristles dry out between uses. In sponges, bacteria climbed to about a billion cells per sponge. The lead researcher told CNN that one kitchen sponge can hold more bacteria than there are people on Earth.
Three things actually work. Switch to a dish brush, because brushes dry fully between uses while sponges stay wet for hours. Replace your sponge every one to two weeks. Never leave it sitting wet in the sink. Norway and Denmark already do this by default, but most other countries don't.
The detergent is fine. Your sponge is the problem.
Worth a read! 😍
My mom wanted to send me homemade pickles. But I said ‘no’.
I was 27, living in New York, working on Wall Street. I didn't need pickles shipped across the world. The shipping would cost more than buying them here.
Three years later, I read the psychologist take on what I'd actually done. When you reject someone's offer to help, you're not just declining assistance. You're declining their need to matter to you!
Benjamin Franklin figured this out in 1736. He had a rival in the Pennsylvania legislature who hated him. Instead of trying to win him over with favors, Franklin asked the rival to lend him a rare book.
The rival agreed. They became lifelong friends. It's called the Ben Franklin effect.When people do something for you, they convince themselves they must like you. Otherwise, why would they help?
My mom didn't want to send pickles because I needed them.
She wanted to send them because SHE needed to feel useful to me. To feel like despite the ocean between us, she still had a role in my life.
Every time I said "I'll manage," I was taking that away from her. Here's what I learned after a decade of living away from home:
→ Accepting small favors isn't about you needing help.
It's about letting people you love feel needed.
Your dad wants to transfer ₹5000 even though you earn well?
Let him.
Your friend wants to pick you up from the airport even though Uber exists?
Say yes.
Your partner wants to make you tea even though you can make it yourself?
Accept it.
The people who love you don't want to solve your big problems. They want to matter in your small moments.
Let them. #lifelesson
Forensic labs have a chemical test that tells whether blood at a crime scene came from a wound or from a period. Period blood fails it. They're two different fluids. Nearly half the proteins in menstrual blood don't exist in the blood running through your veins.
Only about a third of what gets shed during a period is actually blood. The rest is uterine tissue, mucus, and vaginal fluid. And the blood portion itself doesn't clot. The protein that normally handles clotting is missing, and the fluid carries other enzymes that break apart any clot trying to form.
Composition varies a lot between women. The total is around 36% blood on average, but a 1985 study of 28 volunteers measured individuals ranging from 1.6% to 81.7%. The rest is the shed uterine lining, mucus from the cervix, and fluid from the vaginal walls.
In 2007, researchers found stem cells in menstrual fluid. Adult stem cells, collected from the lining the uterus sheds each month. They grow faster in the lab than bone marrow stem cells, survive 68 rounds of division without developing genetic errors, and can be turned into neurons, heart cells, cartilage, bone, or pancreatic cells.
Clinical work followed. In 2020, a trial in China gave these stem cells to 26 severely ill COVID patients and used 18 others as a comparison. Mortality in the treated group was 7.69%. In the comparison group: 33.33%. A late-stage trial at Iran's Avicenna Research Institute completed a study using them to try to restore fertility in women whose ovaries were barely producing eggs. In January 2024, the FDA cleared Qvin's Q-Pad, a device that runs the standard diabetes blood-sugar test (HbA1c) on period blood instead of a needle draw. The readings line up with traditional blood tests almost identically.
Menstruation itself is rare in the animal kingdom. About 98% of mammal species don't menstruate. At all. They reabsorb the uterine lining each cycle instead of shedding it. Only primates, a few bat species, the elephant shrew, and one kind of spiny mouse actually bleed. And this trait evolved independently three separate times in different branches of the mammal family tree.
The leading theory for why: the uterus lining acts as a screening layer. Somewhere between 30 and 60% of human embryos get discarded before a pregnancy is even recognized, often because of genetic errors, and menstruation appears to be the body's way of doing that filtering.
He is 31 years old
At nine months old, a failed measles injection by a local nurse caused avascular necrosis, leading to lifelong hip pain and leg weakness until his hip replacement surgery
Four of his siblings died in childhood (likely related to sickle cell trait in the family), making his survival a "statistical miracle"
At age 10, he dropped out of school due to poverty but returned after his mother worked as a cleaner for six years to pay his fees
He learned chess as a kid at a local barber's shop in a Lagos slum while playing video games with friends
Barely spoke English when he started secondary school (mostly Yoruba at home) but quickly picked it up from classmates
His mother was a petty trader (thrift clothes seller), and his father sold spare parts. They met in a Lagos market
Chess helped him develop a strong photographic memory, which he used to cram for exams and survive without parental allowances
He became Nigeria's No 13 ranked chess player and earned the National Master title at age 20
He won gold medals representing Yaba College of Technology in the Nigeria Polytechnic Games and the RCCG Chess Championship
He also won the National Friends of Chess Tournament and the Chevron Chess Open
He got a diploma in computer science and used chess winnings to support himself through school
Founded Chess in Slums Africa in September 2018 as a volunteer-driven nonprofit after visiting slums like Majidun
The organization has reached thousands of underprivileged kids, including producing a 10-year-old champion with cerebral palsy
Tunde Onakoya broke the Guinness World Record for the longest chess marathon (over 60 hours) in Times Square, New York, in 2024
Featured in CNN African Voices for his work
Tunde has a younger brother (two years apart)
He credits chess with saving him from slum poverty and giving him an "intellectual identity"
He once simultaneously won 10 chess games at the DLD Conference in Germany
First African to win the Lideramos Youth Award for Social Impact in Spain.
Won the Corporate Chess Championship in Malawi with a perfect 7/7 score
Tunde dreams of building the world's biggest chess institute in Nigeria
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Tunde Onakoya has brought attention to Africa through Chess.
He started teaching chess at a younger age to children.
I'm talking of around 2013/2014 when he was meeting at parks around Lagos State, just to teach kids in the open (mostly after work hours)
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Today, I am more interested in telling you more about him, and how he has also risen from a place of deep poverty and struggles.
He has done soooo much for people and it's only expected that these past impacts would show on him as well
You might have your reservations about him, but you cannot downplay how he used the game of chess to bring great changes to children's lives.
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A lot of children now have access to education, purpose and meaning, thanks to Chess.
You are also part of his story. Tunde didn't do all these alone.
Your support, your accolades, your retweet, your reposts, everything
So look at the bigger picture.
Think of the kids whose lives have changed from taking alcohols and drugs on the streets of slums, to having regulated mental health and more purpose driven lives, due to Chess and the opportunity it brought.
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Tunde can't certainly please everyone, and yes, there might be actions that many people would attribute to him being human.
But if children would smile again, because he created an opportunity for them to have their smiles again.... Then it's one of the best legacies anyone can ever have.
And you also can create your own legacy to which nations would applaud, recognise and help preserve 🫂
The sky is big enough for you, I and Tunde to shine and shine bountifully well ❤️
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✍️ Vincent the Therapist
Here are some places you should visit based on your traveler type ✈️💫
🌊Ocean lover:
Seychelles
Zanzibar
Maldives
🦒Animal Lover:
Tanzania
Kenya
Thailand
🥾Adventurer:
Mexico
Brasil
Japan
📜History Buff:
Egypt
Jordan
Cuba
🔆Culture Enthusiast:
Japan
Morocco
South Korea
In 2020, a Stockholm University lab mixed sperm and egg fluid from 16 couples in a dish. Some men's sperm got pulled toward the fluid much harder than others. And in half the cases, the egg picked a stranger's sperm over the partner's.
The egg releases a chemical bait. Sperm carry tiny smell sensors on their heads that pick up that bait. When the smell matches, the sperm speeds up and swims straight at the egg. When it doesn't, the sperm slows down or loses its line. The lead researcher, John Fitzpatrick, called it a chemical breadcrumb trail.
The sperm race is mostly a myth. A man releases around 100 million sperm at a time. Only about 250 ever reach the egg. The rest die along the way. The vagina is acidic and kills most of them. The cervix makes thick mucus that traps them like flypaper. The womb's immune system attacks them as foreign invaders. And half of the survivors pick the wrong fallopian tube, because only one of the two tubes has the egg in it.
By the time anyone even gets close, the race is already over. Then the egg picks.
The egg is selecting for immune-system genes. The more different the father's immune genes are from the mother's, the wider the range of diseases their child can fight off later. So the egg favors sperm that bring more genetic diversity.
Fitzpatrick thinks this could explain some of the 30% of infertility cases doctors label "unexplained." For some couples, their bodies just don't chemically match, even when everything else does.
Out of 100 million sperm, your father's chemistry was the one the egg agreed to let in. Which means all of us are, in some way, the quiet outcome of a chemistry test no one studied for.
This question is actually deep and hits home for so many people. Without the password or biometrics, modern phones (especially iPhones) use strong encryption that keeps everything locked.
Simply resetting or "flashing" the phone usually wipes all your photos, messages, and important data forever, leaving families with nothing but frustration and lost memories.
The smart solution is to plan ahead right now while you still can:
FOR IPHONE USERS:
Go to Settings > tap your name at the top > Sign-In & Security > Legacy Contact.
Add one or more trusted people (like a spouse, child, or sibling). You'll get an access key to share with them.
After you pass, they just need that key plus a copy of your death certificate to request access to your Apple account and data.
It's straightforward and doesn't require going to court in most cases.
FOR ANDROID/GOOGLE USERS:
Go to https://t.co/ZXZMiSLgfb, sign in, then head to Data & Privacy > More options > Make a plan for your digital legacy (or search for Inactive Account Manager).
Choose a waiting period (like 3 to 18 months of inactivity), pick trusted contacts, and decide what data to share (Gmail, photos, Drive files, etc.). Google will notify them and give access if the account goes inactive.
Do this today. It only takes a few minutes, but it can save your loved ones from huge headaches later.
Most people never think about it until it's too late, and precious memories or important information end up locked away forever.
Above all, love God.