Political difference is not abuse.
I wrote a whole book about loving your enemies years ago, and I meant the people whose politics turn your stomach. Watching families come apart over politics has only convinced me of that even more.
To be clear, I'm not talking about abuse. There are relationships you have to leave because your safety comes before anyone else's feelings. If you're in one of those relationships, leave it.
But over time, the line has crept. More and more, we're told that political disagreement itself is a reason to cut off a parent, a sibling, or a child.
I think that's a terrible mistake.
The people selling estrangement know exactly what they're doing. They take your real pain, attach it to their politics, and leave you alone with the consequences. They get the attention and the moral certainty. You get an empty chair at Thanksgiving. And if you can no longer imagine loving someone because they voted differently than you did, you've lost something much more important than a political argument.
So before you cut off someone you love over politics, ask yourself who benefits from the distance. Sometimes the answer is you. But more often than we care to admit, the people who benefit most are the ones you've never met.
The #Chargers’ social media team is elite.
Watch them ask players to say their college rival’s school into the camera. The reactions are priceless. 😂
(🎥 @chargers)
I accidentally uncovered one of the funniest secrets in my parents' marriage.
My parents have been married for over 30 years.
Every summer evening, without fail, they'll spend an hour outside together watering plants, pulling weeds, trimming bushes, and fussing over their yard.
The landscaping around their house looks like something out of a magazine.
I've always assumed it was my dad's thing.
A few years ago, I was helping him outside and asked how he got so into gardening.
He laughed.
Dad: Honestly?
Me: Yeah.
Dad: I've never really cared about it.
Me: What?
Dad: Your mom loves it.
Dad: I just like spending time with her.
I remember thinking that was one of the sweetest things I'd ever heard.
Fast forward to this week.
I stopped by while my dad was out of town.
My mom and I were sitting in the kitchen talking when the yard came up.
Mom: You know, I never actually cared much about gardening.
Me: ...what?
Mom: Your dad loves it.
Me: No he doesn't.
Mom: Of course he does.
Me: Mom...
Mom: What?
Me: Dad told me years ago he only does it because he thinks you love it.
She just stared at me.
Then I stared at her.
Mom: You're kidding.
Me: I wish I was.
So we started digging.
Turns out when they first started dating, both of them wanted to seem interesting and outdoorsy.
Dad told her he enjoyed landscaping.
Mom pretended she did too.
Dad saw her enthusiasm and doubled down.
Mom saw his enthusiasm and doubled down.
And somehow neither of them ever admitted the truth.
Thirty years later they're still out there every evening watering flowers neither one of them actually wanted.
Just because each thinks they're doing something nice for the other.
Me: So what are you going to do?
Mom: Nothing.
Me: You're not going to tell him?
Mom: Absolutely not.
Me: Why?
Mom: Because now he'll think I've been lying for 30 years.
Me: You have been.
Mom: Exactly.
I haven't told my brothers.
I haven't told my dad.
Honestly, I don't think I ever will.
At this point it's less of a misunderstanding and more of a renewable energy source powering their entire marriage.
Ignoring character, personal history, ethics, and actual interest in the details of policy and governing has turned out terribly for the country. Politicians with bad personal character — I’m sure you have your own list, but consider Gavin Newsom, Andrew Cuomo, Roy Moore, Matt Gaetz, and easily half of Americans would put our current president in this category, too — have also turned out to be really bad at governing. A lack of integrity creates many more problems than it solves.
You don’t get better results by hiring worse human beings.
Preachers, don't preach the Gospel so as to make it Law. Don't forget that it is Good News. Some preach it with such command that there is no reason to believe other than being told to do so. They have no problem saying God is holy, but you'll never catch them saying God is love.
@Protestia I actually know this guy and although he is a bit of an eccentric when it comes to his style choices, he loves the people in a very weird artsy Oregon town and the Lord has used him to reach a lot of "unreachable" people with the gospel.
🧵 My Latest: America is quietly shutting down elementary schools all over the country. California, Texas, Georgia, New Jersey, Arizona, Pennsylvania, and so on. Not one school here or there. Entire waves of closures. And almost nobody wants to say the real reason why.
A “card-carrying dispensationalist” pastor was the first to make me see that the whole Bible fit together and that every word was true.
An anti-Calvinist Arminian showed me to how to do personal evangelism while in college.
An ERAS/EFS-teaching theologian introduced me to systematic theology with his best-selling single-volume systematic.
These are but a few examples of saints the Lord has used in my life to help me grow in my love for God and his word.
Today, I depart from each of them on important subjects—even strongly in some regards.
But I cannot be anything but grateful for the way that the Lord has used all kinds of faithful, Jesus-loving believers to bring me where I am today.
How could my posture toward such saints, even in disagreement, be anything but one that reflects the Lord’s kindness to me through them?
NYU professor @JonHaidt, who has stood at the forefront of the movement to challenge academia’s culture of suppressing the free exchange of ideas, is facing a campaign to cancel his graduation address. https://t.co/4egRWmkpP7