Once a man has married you, he assumes that he married a virgin.
Once a man has become your boyfriend, he assumes that he met you as a virgin.
His mind has deliberately erased whatever sexual relationships you had in the past.
Should he divorce you or break up with you, and you have gone ahead to sleep with other men (and he's aware), he will never go back to "default" settings.
Do not go back to him, even if he is claiming that he still loves you or he's begging you to return.
He'll not see you as the same even if he pretends to.
Keep moving forward and don't look back.
Except you too just miss his dick and you want to taste it again for old time sake.
But as for relationship or going back to being his wife? Don't do it.
End.
I'm a convinced atheist and here is my drop:
The world looks exactly as it should if no gods/god exist.
Cold, indifferent, and brutally random.
Stars explode and wipe out entire planets for no reason. Kids get cancer while rapists live to 90. One tiny rock in a sea of deadly vacuum somehow sprouts life that mostly suffers and dies.
Atoms are 99.9% empty space, wasteful bullshit.
Prayers change nothing. Miracles only happen in stories or blurry videos.
If an all-powerful, all-loving God was running things, we’d see order, justice, and mercy. Instead we see chaos, suffering, and silence.
Exactly what blind physics and dumb luck would produce.
No divine architect. No cosmic parent watching over us.
Just a messy universe doing its thing, and us temporary bags of meat trying to make sense of it before we blink out forever.
That's reality. Deal with it.
I see people start praising their phone camera the moment they leave Nigeria. The truth is, it’s not that deep, your camera didn’t suddenly improve, your environment and habits did. In Nigeria, the sunlight can be very harsh, plus dust, heat, and humidity all play a role. That kind of light creates strong shadows and blown highlights, and if your lens is a bit dirty, your image quality drops instantly. Meanwhile, in many other countries, the light is softer and more balanced, which naturally makes photos look better.
The way you behave when you travel. You suddenly become more intentional about how your photos come out & you don’t even visit the remote areas of these countries but the major cities, your lens is clean, your camera is ready, you’re watching for good light, sunsets, and nice scenes. But back home, you don’t put in that same energy or even explore properly, even though Nigeria also has blue skies and beautiful locations.
Your camera didn’t get better, you just started using it better. Photography is light. Without light, there’s no photography, whether natural or artificial.
You accept Middle Eastern oral tradition without hesitation. But your own ancestral stories must be foolishness. Meanwhile, both superstitions can be as ridiculous as they can be.
A virgin birth is Sacred Mystery but Oranmiyan descending from heaven by chain is a Myth.
Adam being formed from clay is Divine creation but Obatala shaping humans from clay is juju.
Pilgrims circling the Kaaba and reverencing a Stone is Holy, meanwhile Africans honoring a consecrated stone or shrine is Idolatry.
Angels appearing to prophets is Revelation but
Ancestors speaking through divination must be Superstition.
A burning bush that speaks in the Middle East is a Holy encounter but a sacred tree believed to carry spiritual presence in Africa is Fetish.
Same themes. Different geography. Different verdicts.
This is exactly what conquest does. It defeats you in every sphere of life.
I’ll use this to explain something..
So this is the average 9ja home growing up…
Boys and girls having to grow up not hugging their parents/siblings.. We just didn’t get to visibly see showing of love/compassion at home even though we could k!ll for our brothers and sisters.. But to verbally say “I love you” to them and in some cases HUG THEM genuinely na problem.
I’ll cite example from a Yoruba Boy angle…
The typical Yoruba home.. You prostrate for your parents.. And you’re mandated to call your older ones ‘Boda/Aunty’.. And of course, your younger ones get to call you that too.
So that line for hugging don first blur by virtue of what we uphold.
I’m driving somewhere.. stay with me.
Now imagine both genders growing from that in the average Nigerian home.. Then later in life, one gender is just magically expected to be ‘romantic’ in a western way
Like yo! The average omo boy literally LEARNT how to give warm hugs and enjoy it as adults bro!!!
How do we magically go from that to designing the room with rose petals and buying flowers/scented candles and all ?
Where on earth in our reality did that depict love growing up ?
The trait/gesture is COMPLETELY alien to us
You don’t get it… I’ve never touched a ‘rose petal’ in my entire life bruh.. Where I wan see am ?
Scented flower ?… Ki lo’n je be ???
We’d be trying to learn these things as adults then they’ll still go ahead and call it “bare minimum” just coz they see it online from people creating content every other time and they read it on wattpad
You see how the average 9ja Man would rather take you to go and eat and/or send you money than design one nonsense room with petals ?
It’s a matter of familiar and unfamiliar gestures.
That whole thing feels like bullsh!t to him… And we lowkey know it doesn’t mean much to you Ladies too.. But westernization + seeking validation + social media pepper-them ti fe ba aye yin je.
Let me extend it a little..
You think the average bobo is freaked about planning proposals, bridal shower, white wedding, gender reveal and all those foreign dubs ?
lol mchew!!
I’ll end on this note..
Ask yourself how EVERYTHING our fathers wanted and expected from our mothers as wives are still the same thing modern Men want from their Women(wives).
But the things our mothers wanted from our Fathers, modern Women are expecting x100 from modern Men.
One-sided modernization isonu.
Muslims don’t want to live alongside others; they want others to live under them. It’s the same with their sharia law—they want others to live under it.
It’s a totalitarian, supremacist political ideology hiding behind the mask of a religion.
Islam makes it clear that sovereignty over the universe belongs to Allah alone, and that the commands of Allah (as revealed in the Quran) are the source for laws on Earth. The natural conclusion of this is that human-made laws, ones that use reasoning to determine how government should operate, are considered to be against the will of Allah, and thus are rebellious and evil. It's therefore justified, in the Islamic fanatic's mindset, to fight against these manmade government structures and replace them with a government consistent with the commands of Allah, as revealed in the Quran.