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[Isabel🌻 @isabelunraveled]

Life is better when you surrender to the phase you are in and make the most of it instead of trying to force some other reality to be true when it is simply not.

[valentine @valawakened]

'relationships are work' means 'you have to put effort into loving each other intentionally & learning how to love each other and communicating properly' not
'your relationship makes you feel stressed and sad most of the time & the other person disrespects you and treats you bad but you stay anyway'

[Max @minordissent]

the singular most important graph that exists if you’re high in trait agreeableness

[Vivid Void @vividvoid]

When you're actually, no-shit thinking for yourself, you feel dumb. You are genuinely in a place of not-knowing. This is why extremely smart people are humble so often. They spend a lot of time humiliating themselves.

If your thoughts make you feel smart and good, guess what? You're just spitting up what you already know in order to shore up your ego. This practically guarantees that you'll embarrass yourself.

In short: you can humiliate yourself or you can wait for life to humiliate you. The former is much smarter.

[𝗠𝘂𝗵𝗲𝗲 ♛ @muheediva01]

Until you address me directly, you do not have an issue with me. You have an issue with yourself. I don’t respond to whispers, assumptions, side comments, or conversations held in rooms I’m not standing in. If it was serious enough to speak around me, it should be mature enough to bring to me. Until then, that is not conflict; that is avoidance wearing confidence.

[M @girlpov]

took my breath away, to be honest

[Adam Shuaib @adamshuaib]

Most ultra successful people have a very low need for social approval, although society tends to label this incorrectly as a red flag.

The average person is terrified of looking like a fool or bothering people. I’ve met CEOs that will send ten follow-up emails to a dream hire or pitch their idea to a stranger in an elevator without a second thought. This personality type means they can bypass the politeness instinct that slows down everyone else’s career.

Hesitation to ask for help or feedback is a common bottleneck in most professions; someone who isn't slowed by the fear of being annoying can squeeze a year’s worth of progress into a week.

There are very few things in life that shameless persistence won’t give you.

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

the more I've expressed a commitment to full honesty, the more life has been like "okay, here's a mirror for you to take a good hard look at yourself... and here's another, and here's another"

in the past I was a very self-critical person, and that interfered with my capacity for honesty, because I simply would have been unable to handle this level of reflection. I would have disintegrated into shame & guilt

but now, since I've cultivated the ability to step out of judgement and into compassionate curiosity, I'm able to receive that feedback from the world

it's still brutal to receive at times, and of course there are many more blind spots to uncover, but I just want to stress that connection: the more you judge yourself, the harder it is to see yourself clearly

and if you make the commitment to truth, boy will you get it

[꩜ @adorewordss]

im embarrassing myself for the pursuit of human connection if you wanna join

[Keshya Valerie @snoopiette]

we must free ourselves from the shackles of embarrassment in pursuit of genuine connection, for risk is a natural requirement for authenticity. blurt out a random compliment!!!! commit that faux pas!!!! say your uhms and ahhs!!!!

[blue @bluewmist]

i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from:

• getting humiliated

• showing up terrified and doing it anyway

• admitting you might be the problem

[m. @moseason_]

You can’t “hate” or be “scared” of conflict and confrontation but discuss it and talk shit with everyone but the person you have an issue with. That would make you pussy. Glad we have that understood!

[Dr. Julie Gurner @drgurner]

“Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” - G. Doyle

[Kpaxs @Kpaxs]

Always choose clean pain over dirty pain.

Clean pain is the pain of telling the truth. The pain of leaving. The pain of disappointing someone. The pain of starting. The pain of being bad at something new. The pain of saving money instead of buying the thing. The pain of going to bed while the party continues. The pain of facing the blank page.

Dirty pain is the pain of avoiding clean pain. The pain of staying too long. The pain of lying. The pain of living above your means. The pain of being known inaccurately. The pain of watching your life shrink around a fear you refuse to face. The pain of managing the consequences of cowardice.

Clean pain is often sharp and brief, dirty pain is dull and chronic.

Self-respect is paying the clean cost early.

[brecht apologist @madison_tayt]

used to be friends with someone who let multiple friendships die bc something bothered her and she refused to address it.
it was always the same “i hate conflict, im afraid of conflict”

truth is you’re never avoiding conflict, the conflict is there! you’re avoiding resolution

[Kpaxs @Kpaxs]

You don’t need to be a genius if you can work hard, stay curious, take feedback, and not disappear when things get boring.

[divya venn @divya_venn]

some people find rigidity (black and white or totalistic thinking) to be comforting. they are stressed out by complexity or nuance or degrees of freedom. i find rigidity to be suffocating. i am actively put off by "always" "never" "this is how it is" phrasing and the collapsing of other possibilities.

[mal @mal_shaik]

the best founders i know are ok looking stupid

they dm strangers, post unfinished work, ask dumb questions

ego is the bottleneck