ethan hawke said something i haven’t stopped thinking about — we usually move past art like we have no need for it, until loss enters our life and suddenly nothing ordinary can hold what we’re feeling
The saddest part about liking someone nowadays is having to guard your heart like love is a danger zone. You can’t even like someone peacefully without wondering if it’s real or if you’re just another temporary experience to them. Dating now feels like choosing between being played, confused, or emotionally drained because too many people treat hearts like hobbies and relationships like temporary entertainment.
isso aqui é a coisa mais difícil de encontrar, pq normalmente esperamos ser aceitos, mas vc tá disposto a aceitar alguém? alguém com falhas? com erros? com dores?
maturidade é perceber que amor é companheirismo, e isso vai mto além do romântico.
According to attachment theory, genuine love is reflected in how someone responds to your pain, not just your presence. When someone truly values your wellbeing, their deepest fear isn't losing access to you it's causing you harm. But when someone only loves what you provide for them, they fear losing their supply, not hurting your heart. This subtle difference reveals everything about whether you're loved for who you are or what you give.
Notice which one keeps them awake at night.
“I think social media makes it hard for people to fall in love if you’re in love with what social media tells you love comes with and not in love with what love actually is.”
Put her in a museum
this conversation from The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky hits deeply. love isn't measured by how deeply we feel, but by how consistently we act with compassion. it's easy to love an idea of someone, yet humans are complex. love is tested when closeness reveal complexity.
i feel like there's actually 4 types of friendships:
1/ comfort
2/ do stuff
3/ deep talk
4/ ambient
the KEY to a less lonely life is to figure out which one you're missing...
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comfort friends
these are the people you don't have to explain yourself around. they're familiar. you feel most yourself around them. there's a type of loving understanding that comes in their presence - they've probably known you for a while, there's shared history, which creates a natural ease.
do stuff friends
people to DO stuff with - hiking, sports, classes, hobbies. they might not even know that much about you - but you have fun together and bond over shared experiences. they probably live near you and you may see them frequently. you find connection through doing, not just talking.
deep talk friends
people who are more in-the-know about your day to day challenges. you share openly with them. you may see the world similarly. they are values-aligned with the current version of you. these are the people who know you as you are TODAY, not just who you once were.
ambient connection
this one's underrated - the feeling that humans are ambiently around you. from smiling at the barista to chatting with a stranger in the grocery store line. remote workers may be particularly prone to lacking this. knowing you're part of this ambient human energy at all moments.
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the key to a less lonely life is to figure out which TYPE of connection you're missing most
THEN you can create an actionable path forward to fill that gap!
you got it!!!
Toda vez que vejo algo sobre esse filme, lembro do comentário da Isabela Boscov:
“[...] só alguém que leva os outros em consideração, que tem algum bom sentimento para com os outros, pensa em si como a pior pessoa do mundo quando erra”.
Por esto tengo claro que la plata no importa un culo en el amor en el mundo real. Acá uno ve a los Rappis repartiendo con la novia, luchandola juntos.
En redes sociales creen que el ser humano solo puede formar pareja cuando entra en el umbral para declarar renta.
ربما واحد من أجمل الأشياء التي صنعها الإنسان هي الكاميرا. باختراع الكاميرا صار الإنسان قادرًا على فعل شيء لم يتصوره ربما في أكثر أحلامه غرابة: صار قادرًا على الاحتفاظ بمشهد من الحياة، واسترجاعه لا كفكرة في عقله، بل كشيء مادي ملموس.. صار قادرا على حبس لحظة من الزمن للأبد.
This paragraph from Carl Jung hits so hard.
“The world is full of people suffering from the effects of their own unlived life. They become bitter, critical, or rigid, not because the world is cruel to them, but because they have betrayed their own inner possibilities. The artist who never makes art becomes cynical about those who do. The lover who never risks loving mocks romance. The thinker who never commits to a philosophy sneers at belief itself. And yet, all of them suffer, because deep down they know: the life they mock is the life they were meant to live.”
“Then I grew up” usually means “I stopped asking how the system works and learned how to endure it.” Confusing psychological surrender with maturity is the clearest sign a system has successfully infantilized its subjects.