Sometimes God lets the pain happen so you can see you, and you can see others. When Job was sick, his friends were exposed, his wife was exposed, pain reveals people! God is trying to help you see who you are and others around you. So embrace the fire and don’t be consumed by it!
Some of us experienced great loss and endured great pain. We did not have to, we just didn’t listen. We choose to want what we want even though He’s saying don’t go that way.