@jiipiix general etiquette is if it's referring to someone who has transitioned but in a time before they did you use their current pronouns (e.g. post ep9 flashback) but if it's set pretransition then use those
@amazonmilkfrog general traumatization plus lots of extremely online folks and what that does? idk I've had some terrible experiences the last year with people I thought were safe. happens to everybody ig.