for each person it’s different but for me personally, my lack of boundary setting in the past stemmed from a fear of being disliked essentially. there was an awesome tweet i saw saying the fear of setting boundaries was fear of the dynamic changing & that’s a great way to put it.
one nazr e karam from the right place hits harder than any stimulant possibly can. just one. one nod of approval. one smile. one reassuring sentence. one word of concern. one term of endearment. one laugh you get out of them - is all it takes.
2021 taught me that there's no glory in pain. That resting your heart in safe hands is the most beautiful thing you can do for yourself. There are many more beautiful moments you can live. The first steps are scary but its all worth it when you know what you want.
Me, asking for help. Me, being denied help. Me, kicking myself for asking in the first place. Me, continuing to be a strong independent woman doing everything myself. Me, making a mental note never to ask again.
I don't think there exists an appropriate word to describe how your heart aches, it's like someone punched you in chest, shot you, stabbed you, all simultaneously, while your heart was already pricked with hundreds of pins. It feels like death but you don't die. You feel it all