it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself
If all we need to focus on is world class reading, writing, and math, you can do that in three hours a day.
That's my experience as an educator.
So basically my secondary curriculum is: let's get top-notch skills in three hours a day, and let kids focus on pursuing their passions for three hours a day.
As a consequence we could have cohorts of young people who are really world class at something.
If you're a programmer or a rock guitarist, you're not going to be taking Ritalin if you're doing what you love.
Doing what you love takes care of a lot of stuff.
Someone's disappointment in your boundary is their feeling to manage - not yours to fix.
You are not responsible for how people react to you protecting yourself.
1. Teach Them That Urgency Is a Warning Sign
Manipulation almost always comes with a clock.
"Decide now." "If you wait, it's too late." "Just say yes quickly."
Teach your child: