Soft-spoken women will always have an unfair advantage. No yelling, no disrespect, she simply communicated her grievance calmly, softly, and he apologized. The tone you use to communicate to a man is more important than what you actually intend to communicate to him. Dear men, please stay away from dating senior men. 😂
Sapa is a dehumanizer and once some rich people smell it on you, they'll use you. I was a home lesson teacher for two children, back in Lafia, Nasarawa State. Their father was a justice. Their house was beautiful, spacious and neat, with police orderlies around. I was so happy that this man would turn my life around, when he sees how much I turn his children's lives around.
On the first day, they brought me bread, omelette and tea. Of course, I was hungry. I ate it all and left no crumb, literally. This became a routine since then. They'd bring me cracker biscuits and malt on days that they didn't cook. I was teaching the older son Mathematics, Physics and Chemistry. I taught the younger one Maths and general science. Anyways, my teaching was so good that there was an observable difference in their performances within a month.
At the end of the first month, I didn't receive the ₦15,000 we agreed on. Whenever I got there to teach, I wouldn't meet their father. He was either not at home or busy upstairs. I would ask the children whether "Daddy" sent them to me but their replies were always negative. "Be patient with rich people. He's testing you," I would tell myself.
The second month ended and I still kept going. In the middle of the third month, I reached out to the person that connected me to them. "Were they always giving you food and were you always eating?" I paused for a while before nodding my head. "Ah! You don't eat in a rich man's house unless he has paid you first," said my connect. I have not heard that rule before.
I stopped eating since then but I kept teaching the kids. I started missing some days too. Towards the end of the third month, he left an envelope for me. I kept it in my pocket and taught the boys joyfully. Finally, I have been paid. My labour and patience had yielded fruits. I got home, opened the envelope and met ₦10,000 in it. I couldn't hold back my tears. That was the last day I went to their house to teach.