As a result of material development and modern education, people commonly seek happiness in external things, but neglect their minds. True, lasting happiness depends on our taming our unruly minds. This is not so much about intellectual development as cultivating a warm heart.
In the Woods Somewhere! Someone asked me here also would I rather fight a horse or a wolf. Once dreamt I had to fight a horse in a nearby field as it was kicking and maiming a group of tiny school children. I found an axe but as I ran through the trees I found my hands were empty
Fear and anxiety easily give way to anger and violence. The opposite of fear is trust, which, related to warm-heartedness, boosts our self-confidence. Compassion also reduces fear, reflecting as it does a concern for others’ well-being. This is what really attracts friends.