If there's something you want to do but you're being a BITCH about it (what will they think of me, how will they judge me, what if i fail blah blah blah)
Flip the frame from serious to "fun" & then actively go dominate. Be the fucking best, with joy. "how fun it would be if i just put up savagely consistent shots here for the next 90 days with zero fucking misses, in a way that made it absolutely unreasonably that I wouldn't fucking WIN?"
More fun that way than worrying about your 5th grade teacher calling you a 'cringe faggot who never even got a C in history class' on your 7th IG reel
How 2 gain 60 yrs experience in your 20’s
-ASK for way more than you deserve, from everyone
-mack an older broad who houses u 4 a time
-Nikes + hoodie @ every important meeting
-the word “no” means 0
-if you get stuck, don’t be afraid to ask 4 even more
-laugh when u lose
Been telling u forever the 2 things holding you back the most are guilt of your own existence & fear of humiliation
Most dudes feel guilty to receive even a crumb of what they deserve
& most would rather die alone than feel the stinging rattle of embarrassment
You won’t talk to hot chicks, won’t lift to max; won’t pitch wild ideas
Your entire life is designed around avoiding EMBARRASSMENT
You don’t want to LOOK like the little guy
But your rather BE the little guy as long as you don’t have to feel the sting of rejection
Conduct an experiment:
Pretend.
Pretend that you’re capable of more. Pretend that you’re destined for greatness. Pretend that everything you do will work out perfectly for you, with or without your conscious effort applied. Pretend that every single thing in the universe is coordinating together for your maximal growth and enjoyment.
Just pretend.
Most of the old timers I respect (the successful happy and healthy ones I wouldn’t mind being like someday) seem to all give the same advice. It applies across the board to getting the life you actually want. Could be starting a business, hitting a certain liquid net worth, bagging the one girl you HAVE to have.. etc. The advice is to APPLY PRESSURE. Never let your current circumstances define what is possible for you. Go towards everything you want until either you get it, or God definitively reroutes you towards something better. All of their stories of conquest in business and personal dealings involve massive volatility, ups and downs, falling and getting back up etc. over and over again. The old timers with regrets, on the other hand, just let one or two failures convince them to stop trying. Go get exactly what you want.
the plan is simple: become an absolute beast in every area of life or die trying. savage in discipline. relentless in purpose. ruthless with distractions. unbreakable in character. dangerous with knowledge. ferocious in execution. dominate your mind, master your body, strengthen your spirit, build your wealth, and protect your peace. leave no weakness unchallenged and no potential untouched.
All of the secret little imperfections / character flaws you think you just haven't "fixed yet", that if only you could/did fix, would get u to where u wanna go
...Are actually completely fake. They don't actually exist - and your attempt to "fix them" is taking your attention/energy away from an actual target (what you want from life), and placing it into unfixable/unwinnable games
You don't "fix yourself then go get the thing". You "try and get the thing with everything u fucking have right where ur at, right NOW", and then the act of you going hard at it IS the thing that "fixes" whatever requires fixing. It's that "zero chance im not getting this" attack energy that bends your character/being to who you need to be to squeeze/wiggle through the cracks just long enough to grab whatever prize you're pursuing. The path carves you as you go. You don't carve yourself then go at the path.
The men you want to be like were shaped by the pursuit - and the exact way they ended up, if you could backtest their entire journey & see every trial/tribulation that they encountered along the way - would match perfectly to the shape of who they are. If you could watch the ball of clay get shaped throughout time, you'd be like "oh, I get it now". Every crater has a story. Every crater IS an impact.
Interestingly enough - Because of "muh self help", when I was 18, i spent 2-3ish years chasing ghosts like this. I thought I had a discipline problem, thought I was lazy, thought I had all of this stuff I needed to "fix". I genuinely tried to force my being to change, only to realize what I hit was unchangeable. I was a fish in water who finally smacked into the fishtank and went "ohhh. There's a wall here". Everything on the internet at the time told me to change, but I had this secret information that allowed me to know it was all bullshit. I was like "these mfs literally all retarded/larping".
So what did I learn? well - instead of asking yourself "how can i fix this inside of me", run a thought experiment and imagine you're "perfectly fixed", and have everything you need. Then from THAT point, ask yourself "assuming this was all I ever was/am, how would i get what I want ANYWAY? How would I work WITH this to guarantee success?"
That question completely re-frames your blueprint. U stop looking elsewhere and tap into ur own faculties. "what would I do?". And once u ask that, u find urself, for a second. But then once u get ur answer u go "is that right tho? i mean i just came up with it? and who am i? I haven't done shit?"
And THAT, most likely - IS your biggest issue. That little kickback response that you've conditioned to automatically say "shut the fuck up" to your own voice. Your own genuis, in a literal sense. That little thing that is so familiar to you that you're like "really? THAT'S what i've been looking for? Wtf?"
Yes.
The second u can get urself to stop swiping your own genius away from your own life & throw all possible weight/authority onto THAT thing, paired with a commitment to never allow external noise to move it, is the second u begin ur journey to your own version of paradise
I couldn’t find the Rubi tweet but being charismatic is one of the most useful characteristics to have. People will find ways to be around you. Killers will offer to kill for you. Thieves will give you your shit back. People with connections will give you their connections. Max out your charisma
the only way to maintain an overflowing will and sensitive heart without becoming corrupt is through strong boundaries and capacity for violence
if you feel like me and resonate in my way of being, then you must internalize this
weak people will call the violence volatile or say that it’s a weakness or that you should be quiet when people overstep - ignore them, they are wet paper spine ass lickers who crawl on the floor and fear any form of severity because their way of life is comfort
without the capacity for violence, an overflowing will is consumed by hungry mongrels (doesn’t have to be physical necessarily, violence can be verbal or other forms)
this is the lesson I perhaps learned first in life - that violence and boundaries are liberation - without that capacity for violence I would have been consumed as a child, I would have been consumed as a teenager, I would have been consumed in several of my jobs by narcissistic bosses, I would have been consumed many times in my life
but because of violence, I have liberated myself many times over and over and over again
as a man, what really makes you a man is this capacity - because violence is in itself the measure of masculinity - the measure of force
a man incapable of violence is a man of no consequence, and with no consequence your will has little meaning
with the capacity for violence then you can set the terms in any situation you find yourself in, because violence is in itself the boundary that dictates causality
great violence however requires great awareness and an objective morality, because without those it becomes abuse and tyranny, but with great awareness it becomes something much more pure, divine even - a holy violence
this law is irrefutable - no matter how much people wish it to be otherwise
just take a look at Europe and the truth of what I’m saying will enlighten you
most of Europes current ailments come from an incapacity of violence, with a low capacity of violence our political boundaries become of less and less consequence
America abuses us and does whatever they please, Russia invades us, Israel lobbies us into middle eastern wars and floods us with migrants, host nations struggle with laying down law and order for the most abusive migrants which causes extreme racism, etc
Every Single Ailment Has The Same Root Cause - incapacity for violence
were we more violent, then no such problems would exist, nobody would infringe upon us, Russia would not dare step one foot inside our borders, America and Israel would respect us and not use us as pawns, and there would be great law and order internally
but without that capacity for violence then everyone steps on us, mocks us, and tries to push us slowly towards collapse
it is the ultimate truth
rules are boundaries invented by people through social contracts
but violence is the law of nature, and all laws and rules are only as good as the capacity for violence
he who holds this capacity IS both the law-breaker and the law-maker, as violence is the only true authority between men at the end of the day, and thus violence sets the rules which everyone else follows
As a man in a long-term relationship, you must have zero tolerance for the weaponization of sex. If your gf/wife withholds sex, you either leave or cheat. No begging, no bargaining, no choreplay. You are not a “partner” or sponsor. You’re a sexual being in a sexual relationship.
Hitler used his period of unemployment for one major purpose - to read.
The hostels he stayed at contained many books, and he read everything he could get his hands on.
According to the people who lived at the same hostel at the time, Hitler sat in the same seat of the work area every day, and he would mostly keep to himself.
However, if he overheard any political take he disagreed with, he'd spring up and speak out aggressively.
So from a young age, he had opinions on the world that he felt very passionate about.
You know who can't form political opinions like that? THE EMPLOYED.
Someone who has a job can't form an extreme worldview for several reasons:
- They don't have the time to dedicate to reading all day
- Their income source hinges on them agreeing with whatever normie politics is currently "allowed" to be agreed with
- Their brains have rotted after engaging with NPCs for years
An employed individual simply doesn't have the energy to understand and digest the entire collected works of a political figure, or philosopher, or scientist, etc.
So 99% of people with jobs just take the path of least resistance by agreeing with the status quo.
Autistic men are interesting. They often have valuable insights, due to being exceptionally good at logical reasoning.
Psychopathic men are impressive due to their sky high stress tolerance.
Narcissistic men are petty and annoying.