the older i get, the more i find that you can only live with those who free you, who love you with an affection that is as light to bear as it is strong to feel. today's life is too hard, too bitter, too anemic, for us to undergo new bondages, from whom we love.
this is how i am your friend, i love your happiness, your freedom, your adventure in one word, and i would like to be for you the companion we are sure of, always.
but, learning to forgive ourselves and others because we have not chosen wisely is what makes us most human. we make horrible mistakes. it's how we learn. it'll hurt until it won't. it is inevitable.
we have all hurt someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. we have all loved someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. it is an intrinsic human trait, and a deep responsibility, i think, to be an organ and a blade.
you don't walk away from people to teach them a lesson. you walk away bec you learned yours. people think that leaving is a power move. like you're trying to make them feel something. like you're hoping they chase you. like you're punishing them with your absence.
the exit isn't about a statement. it's about a conclusion. you are not hurting them. you already accepted who they showed you they are. you stopped arguing with the evidence. you didn't leave angry. you left clear and that's it.
so they finally appreciate your presence. that's still about them. you left bec you finally understood what staying cost you. the lesson you needed wasn't about them changing. it was about accepting that they're not going to. you don't need closure from the person who broke you.