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[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

I'm a massive procrastinator.

But I've learned to view that as a good thing (and learn to not think about work in the meantime).

I wait until the last minute, but in that last minute, I get into flow and my mind is only working on that one thing.

The work is higher quality than if I were to do scattered "planned" work for weeks before.

I have other things to worry about, and if my work isn't the only thing on my mind, the quality will suffer.

I do take my time with project outlines. I start those early. I let creative firepower accumulate as I slowly add to that outline. But that doesn't take any time out of my day.

The general problem with this is that people never get work done.

They don't have a real deadline.

They don't have public accountability.

They don't have a future (that they chose to take responsibility for) that forces them to finish what they start.

They have a stash of projects that they never launch.

They convince themselves nobody will like it, but never give others a chance to see it.

[Billy Oppenheimer @bpoppenheimer]

At a show on his Solo Tour, John Mayer confessed:

“I wait for most things to be over. I wait for this to be over to do the next thing and the next thing and the next thing and the next thing...”

To counter this tendency, he implemented a rule.

“Because I’ve realized, he said,

“Everything you love and hate leaves at the same speed: Done. Done. Done. The thing you hate that you have to do tomorrow will be over before you know it, and the thing you're looking forward to tomorrow will be over before you know it.”

“So I have a new rule in my life,” Mayer said, “and the rule is:

Never wish for less time.

Waiting for things to be over is just wishing for less time. Waiting for this to be over to get to the next thing—that's just wishing for less time.”

“So wherever you go, just make a home right there and do that thing…Wherever you are, go, 'this is where it's all at right now.'

I’ve been having the time of my life because I figured that out…”

Takeaway 1:

John's realization—that “everything you love and hate leaves at the same speed”—made me think of something that Dr. Anna Lembke writes about in her book Dopamine Nation:

“One of the most remarkable neuroscientific findings in the past century is that the brain processes pleasure and pain in the same place. Further, pleasure and pain work like opposite sides of a balance.”

“And one of the overriding rules governing this balance,” she said, “is that it wants to stay level…With any deviation from neutrality, the brain will work very hard to restore a level balance—what scientists call ‘homeostasis.’ … With any stimulus to one side, there will be a tip of an equal and opposite amount to the other side.”

Pain and pleasure, good days and bad days, the things you're dreading and the things you're looking forward to—everything leaves at the same speed.

Takeaway 2:

The brain’s tendency to think about the next thing is called “prospection.”

“Our brains were made for nexting,” the psychologist Daniel Gilbert writes in a chapter titled “Prospection” in his book Stumbling On Happiness.

“When researchers count the items that float along in the average person’s stream of consciousness, they find that about 12 percent of our daily thoughts are about the future.”

In other words, the average person spends 1 out of every 8 hours thinking about the next thing, “which is to say…each of us is a part-time resident of tomorrow.”

We are constantly nexting, Gilbert explains, because of “the illusion of foresight”—the illusion that “prospection can provide pleasure and prevent pain.”

The reality is that “the future is fundamentally different than it appears through the prospectiscope.”

The reality is that (whether through the prospectiscope or in the present) everything—pain and pleasure, the things you're dreading and the things you're looking forward to—leaves at the same speed.

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“So wherever you go, just make a home right there and do that thing…Wherever you are, go, 'this is where it's all at right now.' ... I’ve been having the time of my life because I figured that out...” — John Mayer

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[Maria Popova @themarginalian]

“We can never go back… We can go forward. We can find the love our hearts long for, but not until we let go grief about the love we lost long ago… All awakening to love is spiritual awakening.”

bell hook on love https://t.co/3JwmpSyU4A

[Maria Popova @themarginalian]

"Old friends cannot be created out of hand. Nothing can match the treasure of common memories, of trials endured together, of quarrels and reconciliations and generous emotions."
Almost unbearably beautiful meditation from the author of The Little Prince https://t.co/W5kAM5IC1a

[Nicolas Cole 🚢👻 @Nicolascole77]

30 rules for a life well lived:

1/ Make decisions from a place of abundance, not scarcity.

Your best ideas are ahead of you, not behind you.

2/ Avoid the quick and easy paths.

Shortcuts are always longer roads in disguise.

3/ Don't be fooled by your own achievements.

The moment you begin to lean on what you historically achieved, the potential for future achievements goes down.

4/ Aim to master the process, not celebrate the rewards or outcomes.

The only timeless reward is loving what you do, and improving at what you do, every single day.

"By the time you can afford it, the car ain't important." —Nas

5/ Honor the beginning, middle, and end of all relationships.

Your best friend today might not be your best friend tomorrow.

Your mentor, teacher, guru, might not be who you need to learn from in the next chapter.

6/ Build the life that's right for you.

Different people value different things in life.

Define your own purpose.

7/ Don't stress the final result. Just embrace the adventure.

There are no positive or negative outcomes.

Only lessons—some exciting, some painful, but lessons all the same.

8/ Live within your financial means.

The short-term enjoyment of "more things" doesn't outweigh the stress you inherit when you try to live a life you can't afford (yet).

9/ Never take for granted a genuine connection.

True friends are hard to find.

Honest conversations are rare.

Moments of vulnerability are special.

Soak these up.

10/ Be selfish and selfless.

Give to yourself, first.

So that you can give more to others.

And when you give, don't expect to "get" anything in return.

Enjoy the joy of being in a position to give selflessly in the first place.

11/ Who you are is more important than what you do.

Your career doesn't define you.

Your job title is irrelevant.

The measure of a person is who they are holistically, in all areas of their life.

12/ Do not hinder your own growth to preserve someone else's faulty foundation.

You are not responsible for their development (or lack thereof).

13/ Don't judge success by the day or week. Examine it over the course of a year or decade.

Growth is rarely spotted on a day-to-day basis.

It's like watching your hair grow.

Instead, monitor your trajectory over longer time horizons.

14/ Spend more time working on the "inner you" than the "outer you."

Confidence isn't your posture, clothes, watch, or car.

Beauty isn't the way you do your hair.

Everyone can see who you truly are, deep down.

So spend more time working on that version of yourself.

15/ Deprive yourself of what you want, to give yourself what you need.

16/ Always speak the truth.

As my grandma used to say, "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive."

17/ Play the long game.

Slow and steady consistency is the most powerful driver of growth.

18/ Reframe saying "No" to someone else as saying "Yes" to yourself.

The more successful you become, the more opportunities you will be offered—and the more you’ll have to say, “No.”

This is the burden of opportunity.

19/ The higher you climb, throw down more rope.

Don't forget, you were once that beginner too.

20/ Define "love" as "the ability to grow together."

You are not looking for a flame.

You're looking for a canoe partner.

21/ In an increasingly digital world, make deliberate time to practice "focus."

Otherwise, you'll live your whole life distracted by dings, alerts, and whoosh notifications.

22/ Never stop reading.

23/ The older you get, make more time to play.

Your time on earth is limited.

Enjoy it.

24/ Lead by example.

Nobody listens to anyone who says, "Do as I say, not as I do."

25/ Strive for freedom, not recognition.

A lot of the people who are recognized and celebrated in ways you desire, had to trade a significant portion of freedom in order to get there.

All depends on which outcome matters more to you.

26/ If you are going to do something, do it all the way.

Go all-in.

Commit.

And take responsibility for what happens (don't blame others if the path doesn't go the way you hoped).

27/ Stay far away from anyone who tells you to "be realistic."

28/ Surround yourself with people who are further along than you on the path you desire most for yourself.

Like a nearby tree, you will learn how to reach for the sun just like them.

29/ Don't take yourself too seriously.

Life is like building a sand castle.

No matter how big and beautiful yours is, eventually, it'll get washed away.

30/ And always remember: the “perfect time” never comes.

Every day is the perfect time.

[the artidote @TheArtidote]

"I release all attachments, knowing that anything that is truly mine, will not pass me by & will arrive in divine time." —unknown

artwork by https://t.co/YEWHA90UEG

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

You’ve been forgotten countless times by old friends, teachers, and people you used to consider close to you.

You will continue to be forgotten.

While most will use this to justify their poor choices, you can use it as confidence to pursue the dream you've been putting off.

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

When you have zero opportunities, say yes to everything. When you find the opportunity you want to dedicate yourself to, say no to everything.

[Maria Popova @themarginalian]

Mary Gaitskill on how to move through life when your parents are dying – some of the simplest, most difficult and redemptive life-advice you'll ever receive https://t.co/9O13G9R5gt

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

Don’t expect anyone to believe in you until after you’ve done it.

Then, they’ll say you got lucky.

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

Creativity thrives within boundaries.

So pick a topic, skill, or interest and use the principles of attention as the boundaries.

Study marketing, sales, psychology, mechanics, spirituality, awareness, design.

That’s how you go from starving artist to impactful creative.

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

You’d be amazed how much faster you get to your goals when you don’t go backwards 104 days per year.

Contrary to what the mediocre masses will tell you - weekends can also be for work.

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

The high achiever club:

Where…
You only qualify once you realize you’ll never be good enough.
You only get accepted through rejection.
You cross the finish line by falling short.
You only achieve goals by moving them.
You only become a success by realizing you’re a failure.
You only make it by realizing you never will.
You get everything you ever wanted only to realize it wasn’t you who wanted it.
You try so hard to avoid becoming someone until you look in the mirror and see them staring back at you.

The club that you can only join by never wanting to be a part of it.

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

If you have less than $100,000 to your name (and would like to):

1) Stop eating out. Discount groceries only.
2) Stop buying new clothes. Goodwill only.
3) Only attend free friend events. If they don’t support your goals. They’re not your friends.
4) Take the rest of your time to:
a) apply for jobs that make more
b) pick up side hustle work
c) learn skills you can trade for a higher hourly rate
5) Find the hardest worker in the room, and 2x their level of input.

Then wait 36 months.

Decrease out flow.
Increase in flow.
Accept sacrifice as a price tag for the thing you want most.

Suffering for 36 months to get a financial foothold is way better than spending 36 years trying to turn a corner that never comes.

[Justin C Scott @iamjustincscott]

At some point in your life, you will have to make a choice:

Do you bet on yourself and aim to make your dreams a reality?

Or do you choose to resign your dreams to only ever being dreams?

This is a crossroads that all people must one day face.

To dream is innate, it’s a natural process and part of what it means to be human.

And I believe those dreams arise within us for a reason.

We’re meant to explore them, pursue them, and allow them to evolve.

Even if you feel you don’t know what your dreams are, there are always clues.

You can look to your:

1. Innate gifts & talents

2. Natural curiosities

3. Your passions

4. Your beliefs

5. Your values

To begin clarifying who you are, what the life you want to live looks like, and how you want to fulfill it.

Because making dreams real isn’t just setting an intention or a vision and giving your all until it’s experienced.

It’s about living in alignment - in understanding who you are, how you’re special, and what value you’re here to provide to the world.

The nature of how that manifests can change, the pursuits you channel that understanding towards can change, and so the intention, vision, or direction of your dreams can change.

But what never changes is the choice you made to pursue the realization of those dreams, and committing to that decision no matter the hardship, challenge, or obstacles you may face.

To live on your terms, never settle for less than a life you willingly brought into reality, and to be more than any person, group of people, or institution said you could be.

At some point in your life, that’s a choice you will have to make.

And thanks to the internet, the tools we have available to us, and the times we live in…

It’s never been easier.

If you’re committed to leveraging the miracles of the modern age to fulfill your dreams, reply below with the word ABUNDANCE.

I’ll send you two things:

1. Access to a free 12-part video masterclass revealing everything I know about how to fulfill your dreams through a purpose driven brand & online business

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[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

You can’t both be exceptional and feel like you belong in mediocre rooms.

Pick.

[Johnny Brown @johnnyxbrown]

Chronic stress is a silent killer.

If you want to avoid the risks of chronic stress, read this:

[Ben Meer @SystemSunday]

Fundamental Attribution Error

We judge everyone else on character but blame our shortcomings on the situation.

Example: If Jane is late for work, she’s lazy. If you’re late for work, it’s because of traffic.

[James Clear @JamesClear]

The edge is in the inputs.

The person who consumes from better sources, gets better thoughts. The person who asks better questions, gets better answers. The person who builds better habits, gets better results.

It’s not the outcomes. It’s the inputs.

[Curiosity @MAstronomers]

A breath-taking view of Saturn captured by NASA’s Cassini spacecraft! 😍 Credit: NASA