Dear career woman, please, when it is time to make a lifetime commitment, do not marry down.
If you want to enjoy both your career and your marriage, be careful about marrying a man you are significantly ahead of academically and financially.
As time goes on your career will grow. Your income will grow. Your exposure and responsibilities will grow. If your husband is unable to grow with you, that gap will eventually become a source of conflict in the marriage.
Do not make the mistake of thinking love alone will close that gap. You may live to regret it.
Choose a man whose ambition, capacity and mindset is greater than yours so you can always look up to him.
If you so desire to be an exception, then good luck to you.
Apply for jobs, apply for scholarships, apply to further your studies. Go to the interviews, complete the assessments, do it for the plot. Opportunities favor those in motion.
Exposure is EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!
Stay in proximity to the life you want.
What you can relate to is a cue to the quality and standard of life you have permitted yourself to have.
Break the loop of impossibility.
Poverty shrinks your choices. It influences where you live, what you eat, what you wear, the work you accept and even the relationships you stay in. When survival becomes the priority, choice becomes a luxury.
21 days of job hunting. I have things to share
1. Treat every interview as a conversation, not interrogation.
2. Treat rejection/delays as neutral data, not a reflection of your self-worth.
3. It is an iterative process. Be patient.
4. The other side wants to see you win, too.
Erykah Badu told us to pack light and most thought it was about luggage.
She meant: stop carrying things that aren't yours.
His shame. His insecurities. His inability to see your value. None of that is yours to carry. Pack light.
You have places to go.