"For the best therapists, there is something essential about them that makes them extraordinarily suited to the complex work of psychotherapy. I would characterize this personality as having the following components:
• A nearly limitless interest & fascination with people.
‘The irony is that you don’t actually serve anyone else by suppressing your true passions ... More often than not, by doing your thing – as opposed to what you think you ought to be doing – you kindle a fire that helps keep the rest of us warm.’
Oliver Burkeman
Some see a world of flawed humans, and themselves as flawed humans
Some see a world of villains, and themselves as moral saviors
That's not morality
It's vulgar narcissism
(inspired by R. Fairbairn)
Trauma does not heal apart from being spoken and it needs to be heard in the context of a safe relationship where the dignity of the one crushed is restored.
When people enter graduate school to become a therapist, they are often told it is important to choose a theory. I’ve found that one of the most important functions of theory is that it serves as an emotion regulator for the therapist. 🧵
Don't get comfortable. Take risks. Change. Try learning about a field you don't know anything about. Or stepping into a viewpoint you've never considered.
Leonardo da Vinci invented the self supporting bridge between 1485-1487 as an emergency bridge for troops engaged in a war
Downward force interlocks and tightens the structure, which withstands weight without additional construction