Major cheat code in life: One priority per day. Not three. Not five. One. Pick the single thing that, if completed, makes the day a win regardless of what else happens.
Protect two hours for it. Most people go entire weeks without finishing anything that actually matters because everything feels equally urgent.
Sometimes male anger at “women getting special treatment” reminds me of a gorilla experiment. One gorilla gets a banana every hour. The females next to him get one every four hours. Then someone decides to be fairer and gives the females a banana every two hours instead. The original gorilla? He flips out. He's still getting his banana every hour, but it feels like a loss because his advantage shrank. That's how a lot of men react to basic fairness for women: not as justice, but as theft.
just try man. nothing here really matters so just try. try it just to see how far you can go. nobody cares if you fail. that's literally the point. to try. just tryyyyyyyy
If you want confidence, stop aiming to avoid failure. Aim to recover fast. Take the hit, learn the lesson, adjust, repeat. The man who can bounce back becomes fearless over time, because he trusts his ability to rebuild even when things go wrong.
Major cheat code for life: Master the art of the fresh start. From a bad morning. From a bad interaction. From a missed workout. From a poor decision. The goal isn't to avoid the fall. It's to shorten the time between the fall and the reset. Fast recovery compounds.
Confidence doesn't come from believing in yourself. It comes from having done the uncomfortable thing enough times that your nervous system stops flagging it as an emergency. Because nothing is actually hard, it's just unfamiliar.
This sentence by Van Gogh hits hard:
“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”