Worrying can ruin our lives; it heightens our anxieties. Did you know that anxiety is the most common mental disorder? However, we can take charge of our minds. This is the first step toward breaking free. In a world that can feel overwhelming, we have the power to shift our focus from holding onto worry to embracing peace and happiness.
Men,
When going through a divorce, don't fight for custody of the kids.
This is one reason I don't support vasectomies or male contraceptives.
Start another family.
There are many ways of skinning a cat.
Polygamy cures this nonsense.
Just ensure the blade is always sharp.
In KENYA,
USAID was forcing HIV counsellors to forcibly and falsely look for HIV POSITIVE numbers even when the data was inaccurate.
USAID forced midwives to insert hormonal implants into every postpartum woman, and in return paid midwives some incentives.
USAID was a scam.
I have some advice for young men newly employed,
When you get employed:
• Be grateful to God, your parents, your mentors and your boss for this opportunity
• Work hard
• Respect your employer
• Adhere to your employer's rules and protocols
• Embrace the mission and vision of the employer
However, if working for your employer becomes unbearable due to other reasons,
• Quit respectfully
• Follow the procedures of quitting as written in your contract or employment letter
• Return your employer's resources in your custody
• Handover politely and thank your employer for giving you an opportunity
• Leave with a clean conscience
Don't be chaotic, abusive and contemptuous on your way out.
Don't think you are smarter than your employer.
The employer you are disrespecting gave you a livelihood when you were seeking a footing and direction.
The employer may not have paid you to your satisfaction, but be polite.
Don't go bad mouthing your employer, speaking nastily, and broadcasting your foul mouth while disclosing what is considered private policies, programs, products or services of your former workplace.
Leave courteously.
This way, you open room for better opportunities, newer networks and better leverage.
Don't be a rude employee. Other employers will fear giving you opportunities in the future because they don't trust you.
Be courteous when you close the door behind you, the universe will be kind to you on your way out.
If you are a teacher, especially in a primary school,
Be very careful when handling children of chaotic single mothers.
Teach them and go home.
Don't even correct them when they make a mistake. Ignore them with their tantrums.
Protect your payslip.
Everyone is waiting for your downfall.
Everyone is waiting for the right condition to insult you.
Don't give them the opportunity.
Tighten your boundaries and close the doors.
When a man lives in lust, he lives in a prison of lower consciousness and all the synonyms that allure. When you find a man dominated by the animal brain, his actions mirror the beast.
Understand, Lust, when left unchecked, is like a wildfire devouring a forest; what begins as a spark of natural desire can soon consume everything rooted, stable, and noble in a man.
A man is a ship meant to sail with purpose, guided by stars of reason and values. But lust is a siren song from shallow waters, luring him off course. In chasing fleeting pleasures, he trades the helm for a rudderless drift, losing the map that once gave his life direction.
Today, men work all day, almost every day, and get paid. But what happens? That paycheck disappears into food, water, rent, and bills. The cycle repeats. The illusion of freedom has replaced the whip. But the slavery remains.
Modern man is a slave. The only difference is that now he smiles while wearing his chains.
Men,
It is better to be called,
"Stingy"
"Poor"
Than to be told,
"Aw, you are so nice!"
Refuse to be nice.
You are nice to someone being fingered by a stoic man.
You get a light kiss for being nice, the other gets a full night of free entertainment.
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