I want to introduce you to Steve. He’s 83. His wife died a few months ago and he comes to this lodge in Spring Mill, Indiana and draws. He taught art in Terre Haute, IN his whole life. He also did courtroom sketches in court cases. In the comments I’ll share some pics from his sketchbook. He was excited when I said I was going to share his sketches with the world.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
Delaying something you deeply care about stems from a hidden need for approval. You want it to be perfect. Perfect idea. Perfect outcome. Everything exactly how you imagined. You want certainty that when you finally put yourself out there, nobody will judge you. But life doesn’t work like that. People will judge. People will misunderstand. People will criticize even the things they could never create themselves. And some people will love it and worship it. Pay attention to neither. The praise and the criticism are both noise. Do it because it matters to you. Create from a place so honest that the outcome doesn’t control you. Do it because it's the expression of your being. And then... let it go.
Usually, people who attack you are infested with parasites. So never take it personally those little buggers are clever. They've hijacked the vessel, and the person doesn't even know it
Parasites are ancient, and what I mean is that it’s like a partial hijacking. The parasite amplifies existing negative tendencies. A person who is 10% jealous becomes 90% jealous. A person who is 5% rageful becomes 80% rageful. The host still thinks the feelings are theirs because the parasite works through their own unhealed wounds
And if they’re a pork eater, it’s even worse. So, like I said, don’t take it personally. These people will never feel normal because they’re hijacked and don’t even know it
as a neurodivergent person I spent my younger years bending over backwards for people who never truly cared about me. so I went into isolation for a long time, then came out with razor sharp discernment.
this has opened many doors for me, but most importantly the sense of extreme gratitude for genuine connections.
The endgame of competence is simple: you become so reliable, skilled, and difficult to replace that people think twice before mistreating you. At that point people smile differently, negotiate carefully, and mistake your calm for kindness. High value rarely needs threats. The loss already scares them.
you have to believe me when i tell you that going out and experiencing life is really the best medicine for improving your art and writing and restoring your passion
It’s so much easier than you think:
Advance yourself to a point where ordinary people struggle to believe what you’ve accomplished.
Let your real stories be so serendipitous, so absurd, that they shatter fragments of mediocre reality just to comprehend them.
Watch them.
Most people don’t do much of anything.
They don’t study. They don’t train. They barely work. They have no hobbies. They don’t venture.
Even in leisure, they do nothing.
Few stories to tell.
Entire lives, sclerotic.
They wait for things to happen to them; they do not go out and happen to things.
Do this for a few years, and the gap will become so vast that most people won’t even believe you’re real. It is that serious.
Your whole pattern of thought will change.
Your experiences attract likeminded people toward you
those who find joy and exuberance in the full spectrum of life,
who have stories to tell,
who create vivid memories with you.
Finally, you find people who live with spirit. Who are not so boring, predictable, and the same — who have a lust for life.
People just like you.
Slowing down allows you to create from a place of truth. Trends don't affect you. Opinions don't change your vision. When you decide to create something, it's aligned with your inner truth. You will naturally choose ideas that have a long shelf-life. Ideas that will stay relevant even after decades. Like when a master watchmaker is making a watch, he chooses the best quality materials. He works on it slowly. Crafting everything to perfection. For months. Because he's not doing it for external validation. He's doesn't care. He's making the kind of watch that can be passed down to the next generation. That kind of commitment to quality comes only when you value your own truth over trends. And to create something that lasts, you have to slow down enough to understand what that truth is.
Yell at your computer long enough for millions to pour out
That’s the game now
The people with vision are unlocked
The people without vision are irrelevant
Long live the artists, the designers, the tastemakers, and the people who understand people
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The moment you stop trying to make your path legible to people who could never understand, the neurosis lifts. You can belong or you can become. Sometimes both, rarely at the same time.
Good language says more by saying less, communicating to the conscience of the viewer not by telling them how to perceive but allowing their very own interconnected consciousness to fill in the gaps on its own. Answers are found in the silence between sounds and what isn’t there more than what is.
if you’re an up coming artist, you should listen to your gut. but that also comes with taking accountability for YOUR role in why nothing you’re doing is working. being set in your ways when your ways have been tried long enough to realize “there must be a different way” is just ego. lotta times the reward is in the reroute. best of luck 🥂