& people were upset with me when i said working customer service has really gotten that bad. People are so emotionally unregulated that I find myself having to navigate folks mental health episodes more than I’m actually working. It’s really wild even down to management
the truth is that when some people know about your unpalatable experiences, they begin to act like they’re doing you a favor by being in your life or doing the bare minimum for you. folks don’t even realize that they do this subconsciously.
maybe it'll help someone out there but the best lesson I learned in my 20s was to surround myself with great friends who weren't afraid of confrontation & being upfront with how they felt and open-minded in those hard conversations. dealing with indirect people who refuse to address problems directly and yet still talk about the issue behind your back to others will be a big source of anxiety & the pit in your stomach regarding friendships. there's a lot of wonderful people out there, but you absolutely do have to look ✨
Since this person was brave enough to speak up I thought I'd throw in one of my experiences too.
A couple years back I had a coworker who always seemed to be on my case/micromanage me, but when other coworkers made the same 'mistake' I did
A crazy part of Complex PTSD is the realization certain events in your life were really traumatic, but you didn’t even consider them as such because they weren’t as bad as everything else you’ve had to survive.