Autistic burnout: From the outside it looks like you've isolated yourself. It started shortly after the prolonged pressure at work. 8 parts on what a nervous system collapse can look like:
The waitress had one hand on her hip. She wasn't rushing me. She just wanted to get on with her shift. So I ordered the first thing my eye landed on, ate it and paid quickly. With ADHD any flicker of impatience counts as pressure, and I ignore my own preferences.
Social cues can be a minefield for autistic people. A colleague says, “We should do this again.” Is that a real invite, or just the standard politeness script? I can’t reliably decode faces, and with my hearing issues, tone is basically lost in transit. So honestly, who knows? 🤦♀️
😬 Well it is true I suppose. I always got to about 30 and gave up because it looked nothing like the picture. It involved counting which dyscalculia doesn’t help with.
As we’ve just had a debate re a certain broadcaster attitude to criticism ; it’s of note that historically societies have used structural, institutional, & social tactics to marginalize and silence disabled people.
These mechanisms effectively erased their experiences. 🤔
@Waternymph1967 Ouch! 😩 I was more the rocking back and forth kind. As an adult the urge to do that is squashed heavily. Probably why I’m stressed to the eyeballs all the time. Stimming gives so much relief. 😮💨
Undiagnosed autism long before fidget toys; it was a chewed satin edge of a blanket and a gnawed sweater cuff because you liked the squeaking sound of the material between your teeth. Nobody called it regulating; they called it a bad habit.
Love how whenever I’m back at my parents house, my dad walks me round to the front garden, puts the train on and then leaves, as if I’m a toddler in front of an iPad.
@SensoryRebels Chewing pencils I remember doing that too. I forgot about the satin edging and the cuff thing as it was over 55 years ago but I did that too
ADHD job hunting: you send 20 applications and the rejections arrive one line at a time, several before lunch. Then there are the ones that go silent, which you keep opening the inbox for anyway. The nervous system takes every rejection personally, and self-esteem takes a big hit for many months.
You tick the box on the application because they say it helps them “support you.”
Then the interview becomes 20 minutes on whether you can handle a busy office, and whatever time is left on the actual job.
- “We’d worry about the phones for you.”
- “It’s very fast-paced here, would you be okay with that?”
- The “quiet room,” which turns out to be a storage space with stacked chairs.
- Your two years doing this exact work, barely acknowledged.
- “We’ve gone with someone who’s a better fit for the team.”
None of it is illegal. None of it is written down. You walk out knowing you were assessed on how easy you are to sit across from, not what you can do.
And that’s why so many people on the spectrum end up invisible and unsupported. We learn the hard way, to keep quiet; when with the right support we all have a gift we could bring to the table.