According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
@ElleRC84@TWOTIMESABITCH oh right, pre-emptively defending us from all those Iranians not attacking us with the nuclear weapons we already had an agreement on
i just want to point out… the amount of money the U.S. has spent on war in the last 2.5 months is roughly the same cost that Bernie Sanders proposed for universal college. so the real question is never ‘can we afford it’… it’s what we choose to prioritize.
What if World of Warcraft was redone and they removed all the cartoonie graphics?
Would it still hold its appeal or does the cartoon look contain a special nostalgic value that would change the game too much? 🤔
My boomer dad worked one job for 31 years.
Same company. Same desk. Same commute.
Retired with a pension, a paid off house, and enough saved to never worry again.
He told me last Easter that my generation lacks commitment.
I’ve had one job for 4 years.
They’ve restructured twice.
Froze salaries once.
Changed my benefits package three times.
And just announced they’re “exploring automation options” in my department.
The commitment was never the issue.
The company stopped deserving it.
I spoke to my old friend Mitch McConnell this morning, the senior Senator from Kentucky. He said he wishes men would stop wearing slim fit suits, adopt animals from their local animal shelter, and build affordable housing in walkable neighborhoods. I told him thank you.
@90smiau i did this when i was younger, my favorite was when i'd get to work sometimes ppl would say 'i saw you walking lol'
should have honked and flipped me off too, tf