The purpose of keeping your virginity till marriage has lost its meaning.
You’re to keep your virginity because “GOD” asked you to, because it is a “SIN” to sleep around with men who aren’t your spouse.
Not because “you want to give it to your husband as a grand prize” in return for better treatment.
Virginity is an act of obedience, not a transactional gift.
Unfortunately, i don't like nonchalant men. Be dominant. Check on me. Be affectionate. Tell me im gorgeous. Plan dates. Buy me flowers. Be absolutely obsessed with me
i believe in re-reading and re-watching your favourite books & movies at different stages of your life. the plot never changes, but your perspective does.
I was 16 years old when this photo was taken. This was the first time I would “go out” with a male. It was a secondary school class mate
My mum was aware
Not only was she aware but we picked out my dress and did my hair together
I told her that a boy wanted to take me out and she said “sure, go and sit and gist”
This is how I was raised
And I personally believe that this was the main reason why I grew up chaste and did not make dumb mistakes as a growing young woman
Because my mum was my friend. She knew when to be a mother and when to be a big sis. When to be my bestie
Every man that spoke to me , my mum knew
I did not have have hide
I did not have to pretend
She told me I would like boys and that it was totally fine. But that it was like a plant I could nurse till it grows into something sinful, or I could quash it
She told me about sex
She told me outside marriage it wasn’t worth it and would just leave heartbroken and waste my time
She told me EVERYTHING.
You could not tell me anything new.
We gisted about boys.
She shared her own experiences growing up with me
She trusted me enough to send me out to meet a boy and not do anything foolish and come back home.
We grew up conservative but my mum made sure I made decisions by myself and understood the “why” behind the rules.
She taught me about consequence
She taught me about how that Gods way is always best
You could not deceive me
You could not lie to me and tell me rubbish
Mumsy was always ten steps ahead
The woman that I am today, I owe to my mother.
I hope more mothers, especially Christian mothers understand how to tow this delicate line
May God help us.