I promise you, you gotta train your boundaries to be stronger than your soft heart and your mind to be stronger than your feelings because whatever disrespect you tolerate will continue. Removing yourself from any table where respect is no longer being served is self-care.
I firmly believe that whatever you want to be you have to fully immerse yourself with supporting acts (ie: books, people, locations, music, etc) until it’s your new reality.
A new woman has been added to the roster rotation. And you’ve been demoted or cut from the team. Grab your jersey and hit the showers. You had a great run!
i never wanna be one of those people that gets mad at the truth solely because it doesn’t align with my current way of being. if something is known to improve my quality of life, i never want to project my own subjectivity onto it because it’s forcing me out of a comfort zone.
1. Spanking did not help you turn out “alright.”
2. You’re continuing the cycle of abuse by not healing your trauma.
3. Y’all not believing kids when they say someone touched them inappropriately.
4. Absent fathers are given too much grace.
5. Custodial parents get blamed for how the child turns out like the other parent didn’t have an impact on that.
6. Your child support will never be enough. Your healthy presence is needed.
7. Grandparents aren’t grandparenting like they used to. (For many reasons)
8. Your children are acting like that bc you act like that.
9. Yelling at children in the morning sets them up for failure the rest of the day.
10. A child asking you “why?” Isn’t always disrespectful. They are trying to learn.
11. Making a child eat everything on their plate may cause them to have issues with eating later.
12. Your child doesn’t have to meet every single person you date.
13. Your child is not responsible for your emotions.
14. Telling your kids, especially boys, to stop crying can hurt them in the long run.
15. Expecting children to regulate their emotions when you go from 0-100 regularly is wild.
16. Emotional incest is increasing.
17. Those girls aren’t fast. Adults are sexualizing them.
Some people are the lesson you needed to learn...nothing more ..nothing less. That was their purpose ..not everyone is meant to stay...some are meant to teach.