I want to say this,
Before you marry a woman,
• Understand her family's taboos, traditions, values, morals and beliefs. This is important.
• Take her to your home, and leave her there for a while to bond with your traditions, values, morals and beliefs.
• Go to her home and introduce yourself. This is not you going. It is your uncle, siblings and aunts. You remain behind.
• Invite her brothers, uncles, aunts and otheŕ relatives to your home. This is when they see you for the first time. This is when you interact with them for the first time.
• After this, plan and go to her home. This is the first time you go there. Go with your friends, siblings and parents. This is where bride price talks are introduced. This is when you meet her father and mother for the first time.
Why do all these?
To protect yourself and your children's future.
But most of you are ignorant. You live in the city like vagabonds.
You meet a woman in the city and hide her in your city's house.
Impregnate her in the city.
Have children in the city.
Then, when things fail and her family take her away, you throw tantrums, loiter around court corridors and jeopardise your children's future.
Some of you shamelessly meet your father-in-law for the first time in a funeral.
Or some of you, casually meet your father-in-law in a bar.
Your children don't even know their village.
When will you be straightforward and subservient to our cultural norms as an African?
Stop being a bladifakin man.