She’s a 10/10, but she uses the silent treatment, she’s high-maintenance, and she gets upset over the smallest things. She keeps so much inside, takes everything to heart, and overanalyzes every single word. The second she senses you pulling away, she’s gone. She just disappears whenever she’s hurting.
You can spend 2 years with the same person, adjust your your routine to fit theirs, get to a point where their mood affects your mood and they will wake up one day and say they don’t love you anymore and walk away from your life and There is nothing you can do about it
One thing I believe every woman should have is firmness. Be firm in your decisions. Be firm in your choices. Just be firm.
Let your word be your bond. If you say you will do something, make every effort to follow through and do it well. Always carry that sense of resolve.
Even when you know it comes at a cost,
you can’t force someone to undo a decision they’ve already made.
All you can do is step back,
hold your truth quietly,
and make peace with what they chose.
It’s not your job to make everyone understand your side of the story.
You don’t have to keep explaining yourself to someone who has chosen their version of you.
Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is let them misunderstand you.
Let them walk away with their assumptions.
Some people claim they’re choosing peace, yet they end up creating emotional chaos themselves.
Without realising that real peace comes from facing their own emotions and taking accountability and understanding their triggers.
we are taught not to burn bridges cos we might need people later. but i pray i never have to depend on anyone who has hurt or humiliated me. may God bless me with abundance so i never have to be in that position
One important rule to stick to in these next 6 months, is to not dwell on what went wrong in the last 6 months. Heal, leave the past in the past, forgive yourself, lock in, and keep things moving.
they didn’t ruin love for me. they ruined trust. the way i second-guess every kind word now. the way i flinch at affection. the way i wait for someone to disappear even when they promise they won’t. that’s the part they don’t see.
I saw a post that said:
“Epigenetics means feeling intense emotions, getting irrationally angry, or sobbing and not understanding why.
Your cellular biology carries thousands of people’s stories.” There’s a point where your body becomes your last boundary. Let me explain…
Walking away from someone while you are still in love is a different kind of pain. Don't speak to me about moving on until you've had to leave behind everything your heart ever wanted.