it appears that within all of us, theres this massive backlog of unfelt emotion that, once accessed and cleared, causes a huge transformation of how life looks and feels. —
@hell_line0 This is exactly why public reputation is a terrible metric for private character.
The nicest guy in the room is often saving his cruelty for the one person who can’t speak up.
Judge them by how they treat you when the audience is gone.
Narcissists are very kind to friends and generous and sincere to strangers, loyal to their colleagues, and supportive in their society. They are charming, calculated, and hypocritical. And they are mean, unfriendly, manipulative, and play mind games with those close to them.
During narcissistic abuse, decisions stop being about what you want. Instead, they become about how someone else might react. It’s easy to be labeled as indecisive when you’re scanning for moods instead of trusting yourself.
@JM83333468@nate_postlethwt and then you empower people to make the right choices based on that understanding. speaking openly to supportive people about what happened to you, whether it be somatic therapy work that goes deep into past trauma & releasing suppressed emotions, or moving away from the abusers.
@TruthAnswersAll@nate_postlethwt yes, because being slapped for not putting dishes the dishwasher fast enough is “political disagreement”
your ramblings are not relevant to complex trauma. i think you’re on the wrong thread.
Your body is sacred. The fact that someone in the past did not understand or respect that does not make it less so.
Evil people defile sacred spaces every day. Those spaces are not rebuilt by denying their power or beauty-- but by affirming it.
I wish we stopped calling it “poor mental health,”and started naming things like oppression, abuse, past traumas that live in peoples minds and bodies. Poor mental health is often a result of poor treatment. In order for there to be change, the whole story needs to be told.
it’s so fucked to wake up and realize how much of your young life was basically you pretending to be smaller (less assertive, less expressive, less smart) than you actually were just so that people who wanted to control you would never be challenged