I think I’m at a point where I just wanna fall back and pour more into myself. I’ve been feeling a little underappreciated lately, and I simply don’t have the energy to keep forcing connections. I just want peace.
Self sabotage is also:
- not asking for help
- rejecting praise
- isolating yourself when hurt
- saying "yes" to everything
- putting your needs on hold
- procrastinating on important tasks
- watching too much news
- trying to be perfect..
INVEST IN YOUR LOOK….get the facial, buy these shoes, the jewelry, get your hair and nails done. You look better, you feel better, you do better, people treat you better, life is better.
Normalize this by the age 25-32
• Wake up at 6 Am.
• 6-8 hrs of deep work.
• Cook your own food.
• Keep your life private.
• Spend 1 hr in the gym.
• Mind your own business.
GIRL TO GIRL: go to school, get your degree, don’t be a loser, don’t live your life for a man!! Establish yourself first before getting married and having kids!!
my problem is i’m not scared of nobody, so i say exactly what i want, when i want. i don’t sugarcoat or lie to fit in. that’s why some people don’t like me, i’m not easily influenced & won’t be a yes man just to be included.
We can’t date casually.
We can’t have sex casually.
There’s nothing casual about being in my space.
I take connections seriously.
I don’t entertain half - hearted energy or surface level intentions.
If you are around me , it means something. I’m a real lover girl , intentional, passionate and loyal.
My intimacy isn’t a pastime , it’s a commitment.
how to date without desperation:
> people can FEEL when you're desperate - it's an energy that pushes them away
> stop treating every date like it could be "the one" - just have FUN meeting someone new
> have a full life outside of dating - hobbies, friends, goals - it makes you more attractive AND happier
> don't over-text or over-plan - match their energy and let things breathe
> if they're not texting back consistently, they're not that interested - move on! (it's all good, it happens)
> the right person won't make you feel anxious all the time. EASE is a green flag
> you're focusing all your energy on what they think of you. have you considered asking yourself what do *I* think of them?
> abundance mindset baby!!! there is infinite connection out there for you. no need to obsess. the right one is right around the corner
> stop auditioning for them. you don't need to perform. you want someone who likes you for YOU (not someone you're *trying* to be)
> when it's right, it feels EASY - not like you're constantly trying to prove yourself
desperation comes from scarcity mindset
the cure is building a life you LOVE with or without a partner
that energy will attract abundance
you got this!!!
Why do y’all act like women are the only ones without dads? Deadbeats are gender neutral your dad left you too that’s why you act just like ya mama, a loud mouth btch who can’t control his emotions. Adult men who throw temper tantrums when he doesn’t get his way because your daddy wasn’t around to punch yo soft ssa in the chest and say “get yo punk ssa up boys don’t act like that” and now you’re in your 30’s still doing it. You’re a fatherless btch too babe 🤏🏾
I think the reason I get so mad at certain people and certain situations is because if it were me, I’d never even think to do you like that on any day.