GenX4Lyf

Mom of an amazing little boy. Lover of all things paranormal and music related. Pro-life AF!

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@LuvXmaiko Lenna Deane

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@jk_rowling I might have to go werewolf simply because if it’s really cold outside maybe he’ll be willing to cuddle and keep me warm. It’s even better if I just so happened to be his mate.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@jk_rowling Just donated. And while I would love to win the dinner, I would gladly donate money to anything you do. Your writing has carried so many of us through childhood or, in my case, my 20’s and I thank you so much for the magic that was and is the world of Harry Potter.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@FetchRewards I love using mine towards @SouthwestAir gift cards. Currently stacking points for another $100 in gift cards.

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@ValerieRawlings @ejrosetta This is the precise reason why I will keep my mother at home for as long as possible. My mother has dementia. In her 20’s she was drugged and sold for $10 per lay by a guy she was dating. I refuse to send her to a nursing home where 🍇, abuse, and neglect are rampant.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

This is just one of the reasons why we fight.

[EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜 @ejrosetta]

So I have this prickly but lovely elderly neighbour, right, who recently asked me if I could come & help her with “the trans”. That’s how she worded it.

And if you know me, you know she picked the right woman for the job!

*Grace let me in & nervously asked what she thought was a very serious favour.

“The trans” she said “I’ve been told one may be coming over & I must know what to say.”

I asked for more info.

*Grace is now 78 & wishes to live her Golden Years at home, & not be forced in to a care facility. She doesn’t have family, her husband died years ago & now she relies on home help to keep her independent. She recently fell, so has to have a carer in every day.

She was asking me, it turned out, on advice on how to kindly ask any “trans” who comes to her home that she’s fine today & doesn’t need care.

She does need care. Intimate care, help changing & bathing, as although she’s a fire cracker, her hip isn’t co-operating anymore. I quite agree & plan on being an old stubborn hermit myself, one day, but she felt like she had to explain herself & I let her. Turns out, her story is quite sad.

At first I thought she’d heard about “the trans” on the news & was being “of her generation” until I heard her history. She makes good tea & great apple cake, so we settled in & I spent an afternoon chatting. My twin is trans, see, so my first instinct is always to encourage acceptance.

I won’t be too graphic but turns out, Grace had a lot to worry about. Along with CSA, spending her ‘20s as a secretary where “late nights with the bosses” was part of the job (😤), to a sexually violent incident with a young man who once “got” Grace at 55 YEARS OLD(😭), Grace doesn’t like men in her home.

Does that sound fair? My elderly neighbour, after a lifetime of building her community, working in public service & being kind to everyone, would like to spend her retirement in dignity, safe from men. I think she has a right to that after what she’s been through.

It gets worse. Though Grace did marry, it was what she called a “marriage of convenience” at 45. He was game, she was convinced, & after 20 years as friends they promised to live happily in a “separate bedrooms” marriage.

It was not illegal to rape your wife back then, as it is now. When she said her vows, so jeered her new husband, she’d “pre-consented”. Forever. (🤬)
She describes it as the most terrifying 14 years of her life & it made me want to cry. And rage.

Ofc I abandoned my trans acceptance speech & went to call the care people as surely she could request female only care?

No, she couldn’t. She’d tried but been snapped at by one of her care team & told that “abuse towards staff was not tolerated”. All she’d asked is if she could have truly female only care!

And she’d not just been told off for her request; she’d been shamed & berated.

Here’s how I feel - Grace, at 79, deserves to have her dignity in her Golden Years & not live in fear of a *male being given access to her home to bathe her. She should be able to ask for women only care & truly get it, & not be called a hateful bigot or blacklisted from life-sustaining services.

Single sex services aren’t just about safety but dignity. Respect. Granting the wishes of our vulnerable without chastising or “educating” them in their Golden Years.

Grace doesn’t hate trans people, she just doesn’t want to be touched intimately by anyone male. & considering how many men have disregarded that preference (😡) I feel she should be allowed to say No, set her boundaries, & have them finally respected. & shame on any trans person who would deny her that.

I don’t know how I’m going to put this to the care company, but I’ll do it firmly & in a way which leaves behind a policy which gives all elderly women in my area the right to truly female only care. Without being called hateful transphobes or - as Grace was about to do - signing off needed services essential for her quality & length of life.

I’m so glad Grace asked. Wish me luck.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@Investorhire @AntiLeftMemes @jk_rowling That’s your child and I get it, but when should we fight if not now? Too much damage has already been done. Women who have lost competitions to trans women, lesbians kicked off of dating sites because they don’t want to date a trans person. What more has to happen?

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@babybeginner I swear this person has to be a troll. They have to be because no one can be so stupid as to go up against JK.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@Investorhire @AntiLeftMemes @jk_rowling She doesn’t have a vendetta. She simply believes that women should be able to have safe spaces and that we shouldn’t have to stand by and watch as Trans identified men infiltrate women’s sports. Women have fought too hard and for too long to just sit back and watch it be taken.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

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@stephbastiaan Now if only they could use this case law in the states for that poor father in Texas who eventually lost his case and both of his kids.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@RadioGenoa This poor horse. I’m a very large woman and would never dare to try it for fear of injuring a beautiful animal.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@RnRNationlive @RnRliveRadio The one, the only, Ms. Kelly Brianne

[Nomcebo Mkhaliphi @nomcebo_mkhali]

I am not a "menstruating person"

I am a WOMAN.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@Luconck @AVGirl4Life Your mother definitely shouldn’t have done it this way. There are safe, supportive ways to teach this skill and that’s how it should be done.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@Michaela24mc @wfcollins @scib0rg @_NatalieWould @jk_rowling I’d like to hope that deep down most women don’t actually support trans issues, but so many of us are taught that we’re always supposed to be nice and not cause any problems. Me, idgaf how you identify, just stay out of female only spaces and off of lesbian exclusive dating apps.

[GenX4Lyf @songbrd39]

@HazelAppleyard_ And now my eyes can’t un-see this and my ears can’t un-hear it.

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@DolphusRaymond5 @yuckaginger @Novarcharesk3 @Prolife_Sam @Joe_Rado_1 As someone who is both a bio parent and a step-parent, biology absolutely does matter. I love my stepdaughter with all of my heart. She made me a mom but there is a soul tie that I have with my son that I can never have with her. He shared my body. They share my heart.