when someone liberates themselves from this life, the void they leave can feel unmournable, just endless waves of why.
I still think of Regina King’s reflection on the self-liberation of her son, Ian, and her salving lesson of learning to respect his choice.
hope this helps.
normalize saying “i don't think we have the kind of relationship that should make you comfortable enough to say that to me” when someone tries to get too familiar.
I saw a TikTok where a woman said, if you’re a giver, you need to find another giver to love. You’ll always be happier with someone like you. And damn… if that ain’t the truth. Bc givers don’t just love, we pour. We stretch, we sacrifice, we make space where there is none.
“Always remember that you deserve more than the best intentions; you deserve the best deeds too. You deserve reciprocity. Do not shortchange yourself.”
Word word!
This guy gave his gf a bday s/o & said “I feel like I move thru the world at an unfair advantage bc you make life so calm & enjoyable to live” .. the sweetest msg ever omg 🥹
In the comments on Instablog, somebody said “if you don’t love yourself, you will be forced by a man to do so”. My chest became tight because men are really wicked o.
We were at a burial the other day, and the wife's tribute was, "You gave me a soft life. Idk how I'll live having to make every decision for myself, because you allowed me to be baby, while you took care of everything in my world. " She's in her 50s🥹🥹
Came across a post that said “As a Makoti, your job is to blend in, if your sisters in law sit under the tree grab a chair & join them, if they cook & clean, join in too & if they bath & relax, nawe bath & relax ngoba you are there to be part of the family not a maid.”
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1. Schedule date nights into your monthly calendars.
2. Prioritise intimacy.
3. Communicate on how you want the household to be run as you would a roommate/housemate.
4. Complacency will creep in, but make an effort with whatever you found attractive in each other.