It's become painfully clear that structuring our whole society around maximising profit instead of the wellbeing of people and planet was a REALLY terrible idea.
Yesterday, a senior management official at @UBAGroup reached out to me regarding my views on the treatment of the young woman in UBA’s Graduate Management Accelerated Programme (GMAP) who addressed @TonyOElumelu by his first name.
I made it clear that, in my view, this was not a “culture clash”; it was a class war, a reflection of the deeply entrenched hierarchy and class consciousness that too often determines who is considered entitled to demand deference and who is expected to provide it.
I gave a simple example, if Tony @TonyOElumelu son or daughter addressed the family gateman or driver by his first name, hardly any Nigerian would bat an eyelid.
In fact, many of the same people outraged by this young woman calling him “Tony” would probably expect the gateman or driver to address Elumelu’s children with exaggerated deference. That tells you immediately that this argument is not really about “African culture” or respect. It is about class, status, wealth and power, about who society permits to speak casually to whom.
More importantly, I specifically requested that, given the enormous public opprobrium, ridicule, and attacks this young woman has been subjected to, UBA must immediately provide her with appropriate psychosocial support.
Whatever anyone thinks about how she addressed @TonyOElumelu, no young employee or trainee should be left alone to absorb the psychological consequences of suddenly becoming the target of a massive public controversy.
She should not be sacrificed on the altar of corporate hierarchy or social-media outrage. Her dignity, welfare and mental well-being must come first. Let the poor breathe!
Just don’t have someone like this as your boss. Forget “firstname” and “hi”.
There’s so much about your existence that will irritate her if you are younger. To someone like that, it is a form of kink; she derives joy from humbling you.
I'm really impressed by the fact that when men are faced with a situation like this, they usually do nothing, but a woman doesn't think twice before putting herself in front to help the other one.. and then they still say that men are our protectors, anyway
The biggest mass funeral in Gaza was held this week for 112 people (including 44 children) that were killed in an Israeli strike on a residential block in 2023.
Their bodies were only recently recovered from the rubble in an operation that spanned across two weeks.
@Mimi_yakigar I agree with what you’re saying about the law of reciprocity. That’s exactly why South Africans don’t like Nigerians, because of how Nigerians have carried themselves in South Africa.
Like I said before, it is much better for black actors from the US and UK to use their US and UK accents in a fantasy than do this caricature of an accent that is trying desperately to be "African".
Just like the actors in Odyssey were not trying to do some bullshit Greek accent and instead everyone spoke in their normal accent. No one said they should sound like people of the time. I think it is perfectly fine for Idris Elba and Viola Davis and Damson, and Mofe-Damijo to use their normal accents for a black fantasy film set in a fantasy land. (Because even the authors maps were made up). Black people sound different from each other and some black people sound American and British. Even if it was set in Nigeria, different Nigerian ethnicities sound very very different from each other.
There is no need to create this weird accent that everyone tries to do and ends up sounding like they have hot pottage in their mouths. There is already enough accent diversity among the cast that this should have been sufficient. African Americans especially need to let go of that disaster of an "African" accent.