The healer also needs healing. The planner also needs surprises. The giver also needs to receive. The thoughtful also needs to be thought of. The considerate also needs to be considered.
As I get older I move further from the idea of a “dream job” and closer to a holistic “dream life” where I work on projects that I am passionate about without relying on for subsistence and am able to maintain a significant amount of time for friends, family, self, and community.
Made a relationship pact with my best friend: If neither of us is married by the time we’re 40, we honestly tell each other what traits make us unlovable.