@Odinsraven66@AgroNationalism Average building inspector salary is like $70k/year. That's not going to buy someone a house and a condo, for example. Is this success and winning at a career? Some of these require significant training and experience before you can be hired
Growing up for men in society is all about killing your inner child and turning into an emotionless Gollum so everyone around you can use you without any guilt. Your existence depends on your usefulness like a slave you don't have a right to exist if you're not useful.
Having hobbies, expectations, dreams and hopes may make one non conformist and lash out at society which is obviously not good. You have to be the perfect receiver for the pains of others if you try to rebel you'll be shamed into submission or ostracized from society
You kinda become the martyr for society's indulgences you pay for the mistakes & frivolity of others just because you are unlucky. You're born in a prison and you have to buy your way out of it.