the best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you. go outside, try new cafes, museums, events, take a new route home, speak to people, ask questions, side quest. the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.
it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself.
unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.
you kneecap yourself when you force yourself to speak about your pain in squeaky clean therapy speak-laden “i”statements to people who are not thinking that much about how they speak to you
it’s actually fascinating to have a mind that requires you to self talk like “hey. instead of ruminating on the thoughts and feelings of other people for another 40 minutes it would be great if you ate a sandwich”