13 Things you do that screams “childhood trauma” that needs urgent professional help:
1. Over-apologizing:
A lot of times, that comes from growing up in environments where you had to tiptoe around people's emotions, so you'd rather take the blame preemptively than deal with conflict.
My dad once told me, “I don’t care if you become a doctor or a garbage man, all I know is that if you become a garbage man, you better be the best damn garbage man we’ve ever seen” and that always stuck with me.
Tolerating someone's disrespect will NEVER earn you their respect. The only thing it will earn you is more bullshit. You think that staying will earn their appreciation and better treatment but the truth is, you're just showing them how well you can take their shit. FUCK that.
The best part of being authentic is that there is no image to maintain. You will delight some and disturb others, and none of it will concern the truth of your being.
Dating is not meant to last: It either ends in marriage or it ends. Long, conflict-avoidant relationships that are dragged out in lukewarm confusion and kept for the sake of comfort rarely have happy endings. Be decisive, be wise, be serious, don’t rush, and have eyes wide open.
I used to be someone who communicated so clearly, openly and effectively. Vulnerability came so easy to me, I wouldn’t understand an avoidant personality type but after dealing w friends/lovers who shut down/shut you out when they’re upset, I became avoidant overtime too.
as a Libra Moon i’m tired of ppl thinking the desire to create a good environment & have a nice time has to lead to a bond.
it does help when bonding is the goal, but it doesn’t have to be about that like..
maybe ppl would be less stressed/depressed in general etc if we focused much more on creating non stressful & enjoyable environments more.
life doesn’t have to be hard all the time omg.
Advice for Air signs Gemini,Libra,Aquarius:
Let them go, do it for you. These people no longer serve a purpose in your life. It’s time to say your goodbyes and leave it at that.
i’m finally coming to peace with the fact that you can’t keep tripping over what you can’t control, all you can do is stay solid on your end. Everyone gonna do what they want regardless of how you feel. Don’t lose your mind tryna figure out where you went wrong