when something unlucky happens to your magical-thinking prone friend who is already unkind to themself and youre like fuuuck please don't internalise this
I will give you an example: Neil G*iman. We all admired him for decades before knowing that he's a monster. Does that make his writing awful? Not at all and if you only said that after knowing what he did, you are a liar because before it all, you were glazing his writing.