having friends as a guy is so chill because you'll lose the love of your life and start spiraling into depression and they'll be there for you with phrases like: why are you acting like such a fag?
The most passionate relationship I ever had also had the most dramatic blowout fights. I'd never had fights like that before or since. Every gap in our communication or emotion would cause these cataclysmic high-level discussions ranging in energy from whispering to shouting. We were so desperately in love with one another that we simply could not tolerate any form of misunderstanding or miscommunication
Every impassioned word, every expression of frustration, every outburst of anger was enveloped in the refrain "I love you, I love you, I love you"
this single sentence explains why positive thinking never worked for you:
“it is literally impossible to really think positively about a particular situation as long as you hold a negative concept of your self.“
maxwell maltz wrote that in 1960. positive thoughts on top of a negative self-image are just decoration
upgrade the image first. the thoughts will follow
anyone else obsessed with the human psyche? neurobiology, epigenetics, behavior psychology, family dynamics, transgenerational wounds, metaphysics, spirituality - I could talk and learn about this 24/7.
someone who is impossible to beat:
> slightly autistic
> doesn’t ask for permission
> owns their mistakes
> copies what works & improves from there
> acts really fkng quickly
> believes everything is in their control
> agile + willing to pivot
> comfortable being disliked
> obsessed
> ruthlessly cuts off people who don’t support them
> delusionally optimistic
> makes a lot of sacrifices
> willing to look like a beginner
> has fun
it’s possible to win without these, but it’s impossible to lose with them